(Closed) READY TO PROPOSE. NEED HELP (gemstone ring)

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ManWhoIsReady:  If she’s really understated I think what you’ve picked is perfect for her.  from your posts, you are obviously very thoughtful and observant.  She is lucky!  Don’t be nervous, you’ll do great Laughing

I think 1.5 is sizeable, but not obscene enough to be a gaudy cocktail ring. And if it will be the only piece she’ll be wearing then it will stand out and be an engagement ring like you’d like (without being too much.)

Post # 18
2590 posts
Sugar bee

@ManWhoIsReady:  I love the idea of having a gemstone solitaire!  What is her favorite color in general?  (color of her shirts, bed spread, etc).  Peridot is my birthday, but I am absolutely obsessed with blue, so if it was me, I would want blue!  If she doesn’t have strong feelings about one color or the other, then go with your gut!

Post # 19
1845 posts
Buzzing bee

@ManWhoIsReady:  It’s gorgeous, but peridot is probably too soft for a ring she’ll be wearing every day for the rest of her life. It will get scratched and show visible signs of wear over time.

You should choose a stone that is a 9 on the Moh’s scale. Sapphire is a great choice, and comes in a wide range of colors. Peridot is a 7. That 2 points makes a big difference.



Post # 20
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

saphires are also popular – what is her favorite color. Are there any colors she wears often?? I think its a really cute idea. 

You can also do a halo setting around a jewel to make it stand out even more as an engagment ring. Sometimes going to a jewler and getting it custom made can be cheaper and better value than buying it somewhere else. 

Post # 21
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

@ManWhoIsReady:  I think the peridot ring is beautiful (I’m a sucker for a green solitaire), but, as other bees have mentioned, peridot is relatively soft. I’m glad you’re going to look at that green tea sapphire, the color is very similar, but the profile is lower, and the stone will be much harder. You’re doing great! She’s a lucky girl!

Post # 22
5317 posts
Bee Keeper

Congratulations! That ring couldn’t be a more classic design – there can be no mistaking it for other than an engagement ring. A perfect blend of both of your goals, I think!

My only concern about peridot is the hardness… it is slightly soft for an every day ring, depending on activity level, etc. I suggest you present it to her now but start conversing about switching the gemstone to a green sapphire if it becomes clear that it isn’t standing up to daily wear.

Post # 23
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Aw you’re soooo cute!

What is her favorite color and what color jewelry does she normally wear?

I ask because I was born in August, but I hate my birthstone.  I hate green as a color for fashion in general.  It’s very sentimental and sweet, though! 

What about the stone for the month the two of you met, if you’re looking for something symbolic?

Don’t let me steer you away from the ring though – the ring is gorgeous and reminds me of my own engagement ring, except that mine is diamond. 

My own personal taste though, my second choice for an eng ring (first choice: round diamond center stone, small diamonds in the band in a prong setting) was a rose gold peach sapphire halo ring from eidelprecious, a seller on etsy that a bunch of bees have rings from.  Does she like pink? 

I don’t know what your budget is, but I like: 



Seriously, love that shop!

Post # 24
5317 posts
Bee Keeper

As for the size, I think it is a good, classic size for a colored stone. It sounds like it might be too large for her *if it had been a diamond* but it’s not, and that matters more than you might expect: The whiteness and the scintillation and fire of diamonds combined makes them take up much more “psychological space” than other natural gemstones: as a result, diamonds will look gaudy at the same size that a peridot or green sapphire will look classy. The ring you’re showing us says nothing but class…there’s nothing gaudy about it. Simply timeless.

Post # 25
1346 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is her birthday in August?  When is it if it’s not?  Maybe you could get her her birthstone as a center or accent stone?

Post # 27
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

congratulations! She is going to be blown away! I think the peridot is gorgeous, and 1.5 won’t be too big. However, echoing others, it might be a bit soft for a forever ring. incorporating it into a ring as side stones would be lovely though. Sapphire woul also be a great choice for center stone. I love the idea of peridot as a peekaboo stone too! such a wonderful sentiment behind the stone for you both. Can’t wait to see what you decide on! 

oh, and if she’s understated with her jewelry she might not love the halo style..see if you can figure that out. 🙂

Post # 28
4048 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

@ManWhoIsReady:  This ring is the perfect combination of traditiona & non-traditional. I am a very traditional girl, and I think its stunning! I’m not too sure about the green though, does your lucky lady like green & have much in her closet that will ‘go’ with it? Is she the kind that would mind if her outfit ‘went’ with her jewellery? You mentioned that she wears minimal jewellery, so the green might be a bit much.

ETA – the green tea coloed sapphire a PP put up might be the way to go! Thats a lovely green 🙂


Post # 30
4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m going to be honest, I prefer the look of the halo. It looks more like an engagement ring IMO. 

Pre emptive congratulations!

Post # 31
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ManWhoIsReady:  If you iike the solitaire look, i’m sure you can find a sapphire solitaire! I’m more traditional and I LOVE having a solitaire.


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