Post # 1
The other day I browsed real estate out of bordem, which is a terrible idea if your not currently on the market for buying a house becuase you might just get your heart broken…
I found what appeared to be SO & I’s dream house, to make matters worse while out running errands we took a drive past the house and it was more than amazing. The realization that we are not currently in the position to move or even look deeper into the perfect house for us was a pretty crappy feeling. It brought up all of those ‘waiting’ feelings ive been trying to keep to the side. we’re not ready becuase we’re not engaged, not married, not finacially there, and i currently already own my own house, which will be quite difficult to sell.
I couldnt help but think that if we’d stumbled upon this house post engagement or marriage that SO would be more app to look further into making it a reality for our family. I’m so bummed and cant get this ‘dream house’ out of my mind or the thoughts that ‘waiting’ is what is causing us to miss out on what could be such an amazing part of our future. There are a ton of other reasons why its just not possible for us right now but the waiting aspect is the one i cant shake, i guess becuase its completely out of my control.Thanks for listening ladies, I just wanted to vent a bit!
How many of your bees have bought a home together pre engagement/marriage?
Post # 3
Today I was at bruch with two other couples– we are engaged and are renting and will be for at least a year after marriage, one who is buying beofre engagement, and one where it is a girl waiting for engagement, to buy a house, and to be officially living together. Tomorrow we are going to a party of a couple who bought their house the day they got the engagement ring.
My opinion is that divorce is messy, but a breaking up with a boyfriend who you own property with is worse. Go at your own pace and I heavily recommend you to wait until you are married to go into that much debt together.
Post # 4
I bought a house with my boyfriend in June. We’ve been dating over 6 years and I know a ring is (eventually) on its way. We were hoping to get engaged before the end of the year, but buying a house and all of the expenses that come with it kind of put wrinkle in his funds for a ring.
It was a huge decision for me to sign on the house with him. At first, I was determined to not be involved at all because I wanted a ring first. After we looked at houses together, we realized that the houses we loved were above his price range and he couldnt buy it without me. I figured I’ll be living in the house regardless so we might as well go in together and buy a house that we will love for years.
On a side note — Pictures of houses online are EXTREMELY deceiving! There were a few houses we thought were our “dream house” but the second you’re actually inside, you will realize that its not as good as the pictures. I promise there will be a better house for you guys in the future when you guys are ready to start officially looking 🙂
Post # 5
I am more house crazy than wedding crazy right now. My SO and I have thought about buying some land together if the right property comes along before we’re engaged or married. And with my crazy upstairs neighbours who seem to stomp around instead of walking and like to drop random things on the floor loudly at random times of the day, I really wish we could buy something sooner rather than later. But we don’t have the money saved for a downpayment yet and I know when the time is right we will find something.
Post # 6
My fiancé and I bought a house together before we were engaged. We got engaged about six weeks after we moved in. It worked perfectly for us!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t even rent with someone without a ring. But different people have different priorities.
Post # 8
We bought a house together this past May. We moved in together before that but this is officially our house. We talked about getting engaged shortly after and I’m still waiting. My advice? Do things in an order that makes you happy and comfortable but make sure you are both on the same page
Post # 9
My SO and I rent an apt that is going through foreclosure and when the preceedings are complete we hope to buy it in a short-sale, regardless of our marriage situation. Depending on the price (and the down payment) we will decide to draft up some sort of legal document depending on our status. We love the propertya and it’s an amazing investment opportunity, so we plan to jump on it as soon as it becomes avail if it goes up for auction.