Post # 1
Okay – This may be silly, but I’d like to hear from you all. I have always been told to never get too close to co-workers for various reasons. For the past few years that was pretty easy because I was 21 – 26 and all my of co-workers were 40+. I really cared for them and thought they were all lovely but we certainly weren’t hanging out outside of work. Now I’m 27 and at a job I love with an organization I love. We have a small but mighty team of 7 with 4 of them within my age range from 27 – 35. We get along so well and have gone out together for lunch several times. Sometimes I want to invite them to an event outside of work but in the back of my mind I just don’t know how to have co-workers who are real friends too!
Have you had co-workers who became real friends? Did you ever regret it?
Post # 2
One of my closest friends is a woman I used to work with. I worked at a startup before this and everyone was fresh out of college and many people made friendships there.
Post # 3
Meant2Bee : I’m friends with one of my old coworkers. She’s my age and that ibtiailly helped us bond at the organisation. We would do things outside of work while I still worked there and since I’ve left we’ve stayed in touch. She’s a really good friend now so I don’t regret it.
Post # 4
No I think it’s important to keep coworkers separate from your real life. Chances are that if you leave the job you’ll never see them again. Things can get very sticky if coworkers know too much about your personal life. Backstabbing goes on all the time.
Post # 5
I’ve always made a lot of friends at work that I spent time with outside of work. I don’t talk to some of them now because I’ve grown up, but had some really awesome times with them. I also routinely dated and/or slept with coworkers and customers, so I was that kid. Strangely enough, most of my interactions with coworker friends back in the day revolved around drug or alcohol use. I may have shot gunned beers in my boss’ truck, but he was still my boss, so it never negatively affected work relationships.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t have half my friends if I didn’t get to know those I worked with. When I worked in retail it was easier since the base was younger. But I found one good friend in the office i work in.
Just be cafeful till you know you can trust them.
Post # 7
I am close friend with two girls from my last job that I left 3 years ago. I was a bridesmaid in ones wedding and she did a reading at mine. I supported the other one as her sister lost her battle with terminal cancer. We don’t see eachother as often now that two of us have left the company but we still try to get coffee or dinner together once a month.
Post # 8
I was burned HARD by a so called work friend. Now, I have work acquaintences.
Post # 9
I would have no friends if it weren’t for coworkers.
Post # 10
When you spend so much of your day with people it can be easy to become friends. Just be aware if there is a falling out it can make things awkward at work for a while.
Post # 11
Lot’s of mixed opinions here!
Post # 12
Two of my bridesmaids were girls I worked with! 🙂
In my new job now I have and go to board game nights and hang out outside of work with multiple people who I consider friends.
Post # 13
My three bestest friends in the world are people I met at work at one time or another. I no longer work at any of those places and they’ve long since retired and we are still quite close. You spend a huge portion of your life on the job. It’s natural to form bonds there.
Post # 14
One of my best friends and I met at work 12 years ago! We have both moved on from that job, but have stayed very close. She was one of my bridesmaids! Now I work in a very small company and definitely hang out with my coworkers outside of work. I can see if it was a more corporate type environment or something very competitive though, I suppose.
Post # 15
I think you’re over thinking it. If you want to invite them to events outside of work, then invite them. If they become “real” friends (which I differentiate from work friends as people that you would and do see outside of work, and would remain in touch with if you left the company), then great. If not, then they can just be “work friends”. There’s no reason to try to prevent “real” friendship for forming with work friends imo.