(Closed) Real Housewives Taylor Armstrong DV

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m addicted to RHOBH.  That being said – I have no idea whether or not Taylor is telling the truth.  She appears to be dating her therapist and that creeps me out.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love the show…and I don’t know if Taylor is telling the complete truth…but, I think doubting stories of victims (or possible victims) is traumatic to those who really go through the situation becuase they start to think other people won’t believe them.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I did read that she admitted to publishing the book because she needed money (I guess some lawsuits are pending?)

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Moja Milosc:  I agree, but it could also be that she hasn’t had enough therapy/time to process everything that may have happened.  Who knows.  I hope she gets whatever help she needs (and not from the creepy therapist) and moves on! 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This post is sickening. How do you know if it isn’t true, if she is drunk ” 100%” of the time or anything else? You dont unless you happen to BE her which I doubt. Mindsets such as yours OP is what keeps domestic violence victims from speaking up. Scared people won’t believe them, will want some sort of hard proof, will mock them. She reached out to her friends off camera and was upset when it was brought on camera, understandably so. The normal person version of that would be the abused woman telling her friends, but if brought up in a way that could get back to her abuser she will lie or shut down completely for fear of what he will do to her for revealing the abuse. 

As a former victim of horrific domestic violence I will say my stomach literally turned reading this. 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do I think she was abused – eh, physically, not sure, but mentally yes, you could see that in the show and the text messages say that and those were comfirmed and seen by other people as soon as they came in.  I wonder if it is even possible to put back a dislocated jaw by yourself, especially without passing out from the pain.  I do my shoulder all the time and that about kills me.  Do I think she is a drama queen and loving the attention since – yes.  I think she wrote the book out of fear of being broke.  Russel (and this has been in the papers) was doing some hinky business with not the nicest people and was playing games with the books.  I am curious to see what the cops have to say about his partner committing “suicide” the next day.  This whole situation is just all hinky and just doesn’t all fit together, at least what they have said on the show.

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@CallMeC

In defense of the OP – you really would have needed to watch the entire season of RHOBH to understand – her questions aren’t anything different than what was discussed on the show.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a closet watcher as well. I do think she was abused both physically and emotionally. I’ve found that a lot of DV victims get mad when somone besides themself brings it up, I think this is why they usually distance themselves from their friends and family, the people who would be concerned and willing to touch on such a sensitive subject. I also think that Taylor just hinted and didn’t come out and say it fully until she accpeted what was actually happening and realized she had to leave. Its funny how people are more hinest and let more people in when they know they are ready to do soemthing about it. Its hard to tell people what’s happening when they will wonder why you keep going back/staying, so I think a lot of women don’t expose all the details until they are ready to leave the situation. But thats just may way of looking at it b/c of past experiences with friends.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I did watch the whole season. During the season her friends were questioning her which I found in bad taste. Do I understand it? Yes I do. My friends couldn’t wrap their minds around what was going on with me and found it easier to think I was exaggerating than to think I really was suffering that way. People who haven’t been abused question the abused and say things such as ” I would just leave, why don’t you?” I get why that is where people’s minds go, but it isn’t that simple.

However this post is extremely mean spirited and frankly I have to wonder: what good does it do? Does it help a Bee who might be being abused want to speak out? Does it serve a purpose other than to speculate on something none of us know for sure? No it does none of that. It seriously put my stomach in a huge knot reading it, thinking of how it would make a timid, abused Bee feel. I feel like complete crap and I’ve been abuse free for over 4 years now. Like silly us, letting ourselves get abused. We don’t deserve sympathy, understanding, compassion. I’m not saying I agree with everything Taylor Armstrong has done, but to sit here and judge how someone reacts to abuse is just…wrong. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In previous seasons didn’t she do some volunteer work and fundraising for DV? Or am I thinking of someone else?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@mixtapehearts:  I agree 100%.

ETA. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years and its not something that I wanted spread around town. Aside from being afraid of what he may do if he found out people knew, it was also embarrasing. It was something I wasn’t proud of and I didn’t want people to pity me or treat me differently.

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