(Closed) Real life Don’t Tell the Bride?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think if you trust him to do it then go for it. I certainly would have loved for Darling Husband to be the head of the wedding planning but he couldn’t have done it and work his job at the same time. I think so long as you guys talk about it – so you can find out how he feels about it, he may not want the pressure! – then go with it.

Post # 4
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Split it up between the two of you, and ask for help! Don’t just ask Fiance, ask loved ones. Most people are willing to help out!

Post # 6
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ll be honest.  I gave Fiance one task…ask this acoustic guitar player in town if he’d play for our cocktail hour.  It’s been 5 months and he still hasn’t done it.  So I think that we wouldn’t have a wedding if it were up to him to plan it!

If your Fiance has an interest in doing that though, go for it!  If not, I agree with PP, delegate tasks for him and ask family and friends for help.

Post # 7
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - Samuel Lynne Galleries and Marc Events

My boss at work (male) planned his entire wedding and his wife basically showed up! He is an event planner by profession though, so that makes a difference. He loved the whole process and the wife loved that she didn’t have to do anything!

I also have friends where the groom was super involved with everything – even helped pick out her dress and the bridesmaids dresses. The bride is admittedly uncreative so the groom did a ton of the work. It worked for them!

I love the whole planning process, so it definitely wouldn’t work for me, but if it works for you guys, go for it!

Post # 8
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

part of me wishes i could turn over the wedding planning, or at least a lot of it, to someone else, but 1) it wouldn’t get done, and 2) when it comes down to it, i am too much of a control freak to let go of it.

Fiance is a meeting planner for corporate conferences, so there are certain things that are up his alley that he will be in charge of, like hotel blocks, vendor contracts, and paper products. he’s also really into music so i’m putting him mostly in charge of that too. but when it comes down to it i know i will want to be involved in the decisions because as much as i say i am laid back about all this stuff, i’m secretly a little anal about it too 🙂

Post # 9
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Agreed with PPs: discuss it with your FH and if he’s feeling up for it, go! Of course, be prepared to still have to help him out with things, especially if it’s a decision on something he feels would be more important to you than to him. Otherwise, definitely try to gather as many loved ones as possible to help the two of you split the load – then you get the fun of just having to make “executive decisions”, haha!

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