(Closed) "Real rubies are hard to find"

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
417 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@subtlebee:  You guys have only been together a year, you proposed at 7 months, and now you simply must be proposed to by the end of the month???  Chill, let him find a ring, and more importantly make sure he’s completely ready for this.  How can a proposal be special if he’s strong-armed with an ultimatum?

Post # 5
3686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@subtlebee:  “I know its the beginning of the month but I told him I would absolutely not accept a March proposal. Like would say no.”

You’re kidding, right? This is the guy that you feel so head over heels for that you proposed at seven months in, and you would say no to him if he proposed in March because he couldn’t find the perfect ring? Haven’t you only been together for nine months at this point? Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint.

Post # 7
1285 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@subtlebee: Why the rush? If you know he is ‘the one’ why would you say no if he proposed a week later than you demand?

Also, engagement isn’t the end. You still have to get married, then the real work begins with the marriage.

Post # 8
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@subtlebee:  Whats so unacceptable about a March proposal? Why is by the end of this month so important??

Post # 10
417 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@cmbr:  If I were a man and I heard that line I would run, not walk away from the relationship.  Especially after less than a year AND a proposal at 7 months.

Post # 11
3226 posts
Sugar bee

@subtlebee:  My ruby is real BUT it has been treated:

I picked out the setting, Fiance picked out the ruby. The jewelry store we went to (Diamond’s Direct) had four rubies overnighted from NYC for him to look at and pick. Trust me, even though it has been treated, it is still real, pretty, and pricey.

Personally, I think that the thing is that a lot of jewelry stores don’t have a lot of respect for colored gemstones as engagement rings. You might have to see if the jewelry stores have relationships with ruby vendors to have some shipped. Good luck with your search!

Edit: I just wanted to add that I can’t even begin to imagine how much my ring would be for the same look but untreated. Untreated rubies like that are very expensive and I wish people would have more respect for them!

Post # 12
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cmbr:  I’m curious about this too! What’s so awful about March that you absolutely cannot get engaged then? Unless, perhaps, every single day of March this year is taken up with birthdays and weddings and you don’t want to “steal anyone’s thunder.”

If you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, then does an extra month really matter? It may be frustrating waiting on him to propose, but will another month or two of not having a ring on your finger (because you’re already engaged to him!) really make that much difference?

Post # 13
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You sound like you’re pushing him into a marriage with you. He said he “needed the push”? I dont think I could be with someone that i needed to push to want to marry me. “but I told him I would absolutely not accept a March proposal. Like would say no.” im kinda surprised he put up with that comment..

Post # 14
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MRSsrm85:  that ring is beautiful, congrats!

Post # 16
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@cmbr:  “Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint.” WELL SAID!!! 

If you love him and he really is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, why would you say no if he asked on March 1 versus February 28?

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