(Closed) "Real rubies are hard to find"

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 

I got mine from GemsNY.com  

 

Heated, but not filled.  

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m surprised you’re OK with a heat-treated ruby, given your outspoken love of all natural stones! There’s nothing at all wrong with a heated ruby, apparently most of them are heated, but it seems to kind of go against what you stand for. Just make sure he stays away from fracture-filled stones.

If you want a nice ruby, it’s just too bad. You have to suck it up and wait. He might have to look a lot longer to find the perfect one. And good on him for not settling on the first ruby he looked at – I would be happy to wait for the right one.

As others have pointed out, it’s a lot more of a process to find an exceptional colored stone than to find an exceptional diamond and it can take months. You can still have your February proposal, but probably not the ring until later. It’s already the fifth.

 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Does he think rubies are supposed to be RED red?  If that’s the case, then yeah, he’s going to have a really hard time finding one.  If you don’t mind the more pink ones, you should tell him that.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes, natural rubies that are not glass-filled are really hard to find!! He will have to find a jeweler that specializes in colored stones and have them call some in, or else buy online from a trusted dealer (and no, I would not use Natural Sapphire Company, Gemvara, or GemsNY… maybe they are up to your standards but personally not mine). MOST jewelry stores carry crap rubies. It took us a month and a half of looking to find a nice sapphire for my ring, and nice sapphires are way easier to find than nice rubies. At this point, if you want a nice ruby and have any other specifics about the ring, I am sincerely doubtful that he could get something together by the beginning of March. That’s just an unrealistic timeline for that kind of ring. For a nice gemstone ring you want ideally 3-6 months to get it together, and I’ve seen people take over a year. If you are fine with any ring with a ruby, search AGL jewelers and those who specialize in antique jewelry in your area.

What’s the budget? What style setting do you want? Have you or has he posted on Pricescope Colored Stones forum to get some advice/suggestions? People may even know a jeweler in your area who could help. Do you want a heated or unheated ruby? (I’m excluding glass fill because of durability concerns and beryllium treatment because if you don’t mind that you could get one on ebay.) You also need to pick what secondary color is acceptable to you – pinkish, purplish, or brownish, unless your budget is high enough for you to not need to (I’d say around 6-8k for the stone alone should get you something without noticeable secondary colors, but it all depends on the size you want).

Here are some cool ones:

http://www.langantiques.com/products/item/30-1-1550

http://www.langantiques.com/products/item/30-1-1661

http://www.langantiques.com/products/item/30-1-3727

http://jewelsbyericagrace.smugmug.com/Jewelry/Rings-Antique-Vintage/Antique-Old-Mine-Cut-Navette/22713104_NvNsmc#!i=1824508360&k=fFw4WRS

http://www.gemfix.com/ruby.html#thumb

http://www.wildfishgems.com/ruby_1_to_2_carat?b=1

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2023

Not touching most of this thread with a barge pole…

But, responding to the ring thing, have you tried etsy? They have a lot of ruby rings, that are very unique and beautiful.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Red spinel is also a non-lab grown option for a red stone.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@subtlebee:  The only RED red I’ve ever seen was a lab stone.  That’s why he’s having a hard time then.

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@subtlebee:   Cutting a stone and treating a stone are two different things. A cut ruby which has not gone through any type of enhancements would still be considered an all-natural stone. The color of a heat-treated stone is not its natural color. Just wanted to make sure you were OK with that. 🙂

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@subtlebee:  It’s OK, dear. We all know you have very…personalized…definitions of what “fake” and “natural” mean. Whatever feels good in your mind is probably what you should believe, though. 🙂

Good luck!!

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@subtlebee:  Just to give you some perspective, Mark Zuckerburg (the facebook creator) proposed with an untreated, natural red ruby ring he designed (TmZ reported it to be equivelnt to 1 carat) and he spent $25,000

 

So yeah. You should REALLY cut your bf some slack.

Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Let him do his guy thing and find the perfect ring. It seems like you’re pushing him into it. Relax and enjoy your time with him. Isn’t he worth waiting for?  You’ll be engaged soon enough.  I’d be running in the other direction if anyone tried to give me a proposal deadline. 

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