Post # 1
I know this may sound crazy, but part of me doesn’t want my Fiance to spend tons on a single purchase (aka ring). I’d rather use $ as a down payment or vacation.
Can people REALLY tell if something is real or not (like cubic zirconia) without a loop? Without being an experienced jeweler? Anyone know of rings online that are inexpensive but look legit?
Post # 2
Hi OP, welcome to the bee. Just to warn you, this is post might get controversial. “Fake” is not a word that is loved around here. But! There are plenty of diamond alternatives out there! Moissanite and the Amora Gem are very popular on the bee. They are not CZ’s, and are forever stones, and definitely aren’t as expensive as a diamond. Do some searches on older threads. Theres a billion on here! 🙂
Post # 3
Why not just skip the diamond? Do you still want some sparkle, or are you only doing it because it’s expected? You know you don’t need an e-ring at all!
Post # 4
I feel like I have deja vu! I think you should check out the thread from yesterday about this, probably on the ring board. Lots of responses.
In short, if its a believable size, most people can’t. CZ (as long as it’s clean and hasn’t clouded) and Amora are more diamondlike than Moissy. If you go buying a 3 carat honker, it’ll be obvious. Stick to a carat, no one will notice (High quality CZ or Amora in a nice setting).
Post # 5
Also, search this site for a “pretty rings under $500” thread. Some nice options there.
Post # 6
joyjoywedding: There was a thread on this yesterday I think. I think if you stay within a reasonable size according to your lifestyle then no one would question it. Like if you got a 3-5ct CZ but you weren’t very well off then people would probably question it but if you got like a 1ct or 1.5ct then I doubt anyone would think anything of it.
Berricle has some really pretty CZ rings. They’re mostly silver so they won’t turn your finger green.
You could always do a pretty setting and spend the money there and have a CZ center stone if that’s what you really want. It’s your ring you should do whatever you feel comfortable with and want to do.
Or you could check out diamond alternatives like Moissanite or the Amora Gem. They are a reasonable price while still having the qualities of diamonds. Mine is an Amora Gem in a Gabriel & Co setting and we got what would have cost us like 15k for about 3K total so I felt really good about it and I absolutely love my ring. We got a size that is relative to our lifestyle and we both felt good about our decision to not get a diamond. That’s all that really matters
Post # 7
joyjoywedding: Not all SIMs are created equal, but unless it is a really poor or odd cut/color stone most people won’t be able to tell if youre passing them or in pictures. If they hold it up to their faces they *may* be able to tell- it all depends.
A cz is super hard to keep clean (attracts dirt and oils like no other) so the fogginess or any scratches will give it away that it may not be a diamond as well as differences in cut and color. This is not a forever stone so eventually you will have to replace it. Really excellent quality (cut/color) is not that easy to find (you mostly have to order them) and they arent that cheap. There is also costs involved with setting/resetting of the ring so keep that in mind.
I tend to find that moissanite and the amora gem are better sims because they have more depth and are forever stones. They are slightly more expensive but worth it if you can swing a higher price tag than a CZ. The only downside to moissanite may be the splintery cut and the color- as they tend to show more body color than a cz, amora gem and colorless/near colorless diamonds.
As with ANY stone, if you are trying to remain under the radar i would suggest buying the size equivalent of what you can afford in diamonds. If you get a 5ct ring and you can only afford 1/4ct and most people in your social circle wear 1/4 ct- it will stand out and not be believable.
Post # 8
- Wedding: A restaurant on the beach
Overstock sells retired Tacori settings with CZ center stones. You could always have the center upgraded in a few years if you wanted to. If the CZ is decent quality I don’t think most people will be able to tell it isn’t a real diamond.
Post # 9
There are many options for engagement rings that do not cost an arm and a leg. Anything that is remotely ring-shaped and worn on a finger can be an engagement ring. It doesn’t have to be a diamond, or a diamond simulate, or colorless gem. Look outside the “engagement ring” section of jewelry stores. Look on Etsy. You don’t even need a ring at all!
But yeah, people won’t appreciate the “fake” reference.
Post # 10
I totally concur with all the great advice above. If you stick to a reasonable size, I doubt anyone will question you. My Fiance and I decided on Moissanite because of the cost factor, and it’s absolutely stunning! I’m so pleased we chose this route, and I don’t feel like it’s a “fake” diamond at all. It’s a beautiful ring and I can’t wait to tell everyone about my “space stone”! 🙂
Post # 11
MrsA44: Oh, sorry, didn’t see that! And I’m not sure how to search on this board yet, but I’ll try! 🙂
Thanks everyone for the tips! I feel like my Fiance feeeeeels like it’s expected to be a diamond. I feel the pressure a bit too but am happy with something else way cheaper and non-traditional. I have friends whose rings cost $5-$10k and I just would not want that much money in one little thing on my finger. :/
I’ll do some searches for the stones mentioned. And I won’t say “fake” anymore — oops!!
Post # 12
If you are concerned with people thinking you don’t have a diamond, you need to really step back and think what the ring represents to you.
There are no rules stating that you need a diamond in your ring (or even a ring) to be truly engaged. Thankfully, gemstone rings and alternatives are becoming more socially acceptable. Not that it matters, but I’m happy people are finally opening their eyes. Diamond e-rings are actually a recent development to generate a profit. There’s no reason you need a diamond ring.
I would not buy a CZ for the sole purpose of hoping people will think it’s a diamond. If someone asks, do you plan on telling them the truth? If not, why not just invest in a plain band, or a tiny diamond, or any other gemstone? There are beautiful rings out there that can be had for a few hundred dollars or even less. A CZ will not stand the test of time.
Can people tell? yes and no. That shouldn’t impact your purchasing decision on the ring you want to represent the commitment to your fiance and husband.
Don’t discount used rings either. I have seen some beauties on here that bees got at the pawnshop for amazing prices.
Post # 14
doglover89: This is great advice. I really am hating the feeling of social pressure (real and imagined) that is welling up in me as a result of planning a wedding. I thought I ‘didn’t care’ but feel such a struggle sometimes to not do what is expected. I love that more things are becoming socially acceptable…and I need to sit down with Fiance and talk about what we really want regardless of what others think we should do. This is a unique growing experience. I can feel it.
Post # 15
Yah this is a hot topic.
Summary. ALL rings are real–unless you are hallucinating. Engagement focus should be on the engagement itself not the accessory.
If you REALLY want to fool people into think what you have is a diamond, get a diamond. Someone, somewhere will know what ring you’ll get and being truthful when asked will be my Own policy based on past experience.
Classmate said her Fiance got a diamond. Group of individuals talked behind her back about her mountain dew diamond and was calling her a liar behind her back. To her face they were all Oooh and Aaahh very pretty. Goes to show, people can be truly harsh.
Post # 16
I don’t have a pic of the ring on my finger yet, but here’s a link to the ring we chose, except I got it in rose gold: https://www.etsy.com/listing/189747242/skinny-alberta-75mm-14kt-white-gold?ref=shop_home_active_5&ga_search_query=alberta
Rosado’s Box has posted a number of videos of their Moissanite rings to show off how great they look. Here’s my favorite: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MsibFyJOjsg