(Closed) Realising I have no friends or family if I were to get married

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
Member
68 posts
Worker bee

auds:  I am doing 1 on each side for the bridal party.  I don’t even really want that but he does, so why not.  

 

Post # 18
Member
222 posts
Helper bee

auds:  

I can relate to how you feel, I’m not yet engaged, but I’m sure I will be soon and we will be moving 16 hours away before a wedding, no one in my family would be able to afford to travel and my dad and step mom have flat out said they wouldn’t be able to come if we had it where we move. At best we can pay for a couple of people to come up, his family is there so it would pretty much be all his family and friends, and to me the point of the reception is to have your special people celebrate with you and I want them to have fun on that day. I know that being married to the man I love is what it’s all about at the end if the day, but I will still be sad that the other people I love will not be there to share it with, I think that’s pretty normal. Good luck to you I hope you can at least have a few people there for you to join in on your special day.

Post # 19
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

auds:  I found making friends in my 20s was also much harder than while in college. I moved by myself to a new place and I didn’t know anyone. I pretty much forced people to hang out with me lol. Over the past 5 years that I’ve lived in my new town I’ve made some of the best friends from pushing myself outside of my comfort zone. It might be going to a work happy hour even though you want to go home. It might mean joining a kickball league or volleyball (did both!) But making friends is so valuable. 

I agree with a few other posters that noted that you are getting ahead of yourself. I can see why you are, but live in the present! And maybe your family will make it, and if they can’t consider doing something small there and something small with your family. A wedding doesn’t have to be this big thing- there are no rules. Some people don’t even have a Maid/Matron of Honor. At the root of it, a marriage is about you two only..not some big overdone fiesta.

Post # 20
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I actually put this same post up recently, I moved from England to Australia too! And me and Fiance have a total guest list of 7 people, they are all family members. It sucks and I won’t have any bridesmaids, and he won’t have a bucks night and I won’t have a bridal shower or a baby shower if we ever have babies. It’s a bummer, but we love each other and we are happy with each others company. My mum has a huge family, she has 9 siblings and in England I never needed friends because i had an army of cousins and second cousins! I know a lot of posters are saying small weddings are great, and they are, for the people that want small weddings. I’m sure the poster above picked out 25 closest people from a long list of people she could invite. We don’t have that luxury, to me it kind of feels like your missing out on a right of passage, when you want to have a bigger wedding and theres less than 10 people coming it can feel like, what’s the point of a cake or a dress when you could just sign the papers on a Tuesday arvo and be done with it. I got answers about bees not having the people they want there or doing it cheaply so less guests, and I felt they were missing the point. Where in Aus are you?

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