(Closed) reality check?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow! You are not being unreasonable at all! It’s your wedding, you pick the color. You were nice enough to let her pick her own dress with a small restriction. I’m sorry she is being so difficult.

Post # 4
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i went through this with my sister/moh too, i let her pick her own dress giving her some guidelines (which she hated), and it was a month of some passive aggressiveness for us. she would find a dress she liked but i wouldn’t, i would send her a picture of a dress that she wouldn’t like, and it would just go on and on. and finally, i decided that i just wanted my sister to be happy because it just wasn’t worth it. really, it was just a dress, and no matter what my wedding would look beautiful. (i ended up loving the dress she picked out!) so i do agree, it is mean to choose centerpieces over her. you didn’t pick her because you wanted her to look good standing next to you, you picked her because you love her and you want her to be there to support you.

Post # 6
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

What color dress did she get?  Is it something that is complimentary to blue?  I actually didn’t pick my color scheme until after we had found the bridesmaid dresses, but then again, if I had asked my bridesmaids to find a dress in a specific color, they would have done it with no questions asked.  So, your sister is being a unnecessarily obstinate, but maybe there is room for compromise.

Post # 7
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Lord it’s like preachin’ to the choir here.  I felt like some of this could have came right out of my mouth! I’m sorry you are having a hard time.  Honestly, your sister needs to just suck it up.  It’s your wedding, you pick the colors and she doesn’t need to be causing such a ruckus.  I ended up not having a wedding party because of the drama and I’m pretty happy with it.  I do intend to have her and my other girl friends doing some special stuff for the day and being there for the morning of to get ready.  I totally agree with having little flower girls—so cute! 

Is your sister younger or older than you are?  Is she married? 

Post # 10
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

She sounds like a total drama queen that will probably nit-pick at everything for the rest of the wedding. I say skip it.

Post # 11
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i don’t know, kicking her out of the wedding party will probably really hurt her feelings and could possible damange your relationship. my new favorite slogan is “pick your battles.” is this one worth it?

Post # 12
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@artbee-while I agree it may hurt her feelings, all ksnow needs to say is that she has decided to make things a little simpler for the wedding and not have a wedding party.  If the sister throws a fit ksnow can still keep it to herself the true reason and just say she doesn’t want to add finding another dress(s) for the wedding party and coordinating schedules because it can be so stressful. My fiance actually let me use him as the scapegoat saying he preferred to not have groomsmen so they both decided to just nix the wedding party all together.

ksnow–are there any other girls in the wedding party? I forgot if you mentioned that or not.

 

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