Post # 1
I’m experiencing a reality check and decided to share just in case any of my fellow bees are feeling the same.
Through this whole process I have been patting my own back for being such a cost conscious bride. Yet here I am about to send another email requesting another upgrade quote. What the hell happened to me? The wedding industry has sucked me into a black hole where all sentences start with “It’s only 500 more for the…” or “It’s only 15 more per guest for…”
So I’ve decided to delete the linen upgrade request because I’m sure my guests don’t care that much about the color of the table cloth.
I should probably stay off pinterest and ban all wedding shows until this SPEND ALL YOUR MONEY bug goes away.
The reality is I don’t need to be spending hundreds of dollars just to get different table linens. It’s crazy they even charge extra for that. What kind of people say “I’m sorry, the THOUSANDS of dollars you’re already spending doesn’t include the gold color table cloth” Jerks. 😛 I don’t need it anyway.
Post # 3
Lol good for you. It is so easy to get sucked in… for only one day at the end of all that $$$.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Oh man do I know what you mean……. I’m in trouble.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@KittyCatToe: For me it was the exact opposite after the wedding was over! I was so used to not spending any money on random shopping because for the last 14 months I had been saving EVERY FREAKIN’ PENNY.
Some upgrades I think are worth it, others *cough linens!* definitely not. Kudos for recognizing it 🙂
Post # 6
KittyCatToe– Good for you! You are the only one who will even notice any way. I can barley remember the linens or even table decorations for most of the weddings I’ve been too. Even if I had a million dollars, I wouldn’t want to spend it on one day for just a few hours-the bet part of getting married is the marriage, not the expensive wedding 🙂
Post # 7
That’s how they get you. An extra $200 here and 5% there and before you know it, you just shot through your budget and you have to sacrifice your first born to pay off your wedding.
Post # 8
@KittyCatToe: totally with you. I keep catching myself with the upgrades and then i’m like ‘wait, no, we’re trying to CUT costs’ my only upgrade, that I’m trying to find money for is chairs, I really want the Chivari chairs, but I may not be able to afford them, depends on how many yesses we get it’ll be a little under $400 to upgrade. I’ve already ‘saved’ that money elsewhere by cutting things, but do I care that much about these chairs? That’s the question.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Hahaha! Yeah, be careful! I thought I was doing so good too because we really shopped around for quotes and made lots of cuts. But we still ended up going $18,000 over budget. O_O It can happen to the best of us. 😉
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
The answer is no. I struggled with this choice too and ended up going with the garden chairs provided by the venue at less than half the cost. I’m sooooo glad I didn’t end up spending that money on the chiavari chairs! Trust me, not even you will care about the chairs on your wedding day. There’s just too much else going on.
Post # 11
It’s way to easy to get sucked in.
LOL Just say no!
Exactly. It’s easy to forget what it’s all about when you’re talking to a bunch of sales people who paint a lovely picture of a perfect day.
Haha I’ll tell the florist she can have my first born if she throws in the jeweled garland.
We are so on the same page. I decided the lighting did mean that much to me and I kept that upgrade. My lighting, your chairs, they matter.
Post # 12
Ahhh I saw this after I posted LOL Never mind those chairs! Forget those chairs!
Post # 13
outside, for the ceremony, I’m using the chairs they provide. Inside, I need to rent chairs. the chairs they provide are horrendous and covered in paint splatter from little kid art classes and I hate chair covers (and renting chairs is the same price). It’s a question of how much the chivari chairs ‘matter’ to me. I know they don’t in reality, but for my wedding…they might.
Post # 14
@KittyCatToe: it is easy to get sucked in. you don’t want to spend so much that you end up paying for it for the next few years. Not worth going broke over .