Post # 1
My mom keeps bugging me about this, saying time is running out. We’re probably just going to go with someone with an officiating business that we find online through reviews. We’re getting married on a Sunday, so I think there won’t be a problem with availability. Do I really need to get an officiant ASAP?
Post # 3
The sooner the better, but if it is a Sunday and 6 months away, you still have some time.
Post # 4
We don’t have one yet for our October wedding. I keep thinking I should be more stressed out about this but for some reason…I’m just not…yet.
Post # 5
I would get on that, even on Sundays people book things, even personal events.
Post # 6
It can’t hurt to book now. Get that off your plate so you won’t have to worry about it later.
Post # 7
hmm I think you still have time but I would be careful about having options and booking it far out enough that you can take your time in finding the right person. Is there a reason why you don`t want to book it yet? I also think because you are getting married on a Sunday , you might actually have an issue finding someone who works on that day.
Post # 8
@TwoCityBride: I don’t really have a reason. I just can’t wrap my head around hiring a stranger to marry us. We want a personalized ceremony, which a stranger could accommodate, but it seems weird. I don’t know. We don’t have a minister or anyone we know who could do it. And I’m not worried about people working on Sundays – it’s not completely unheard of to have a wedding on a Sunday, and they’ll work if they want our business!
Post # 9
@redheadem: Why not see if someone close to you would be willing to do the online ordaining so you can have it be personal?
Post # 10
@redheadem: Have you checked the rules for officiants where you are getting married? Could you have a friend or family member get “ordained” through the Universal Life(Light?) Ministry so that you don’t have to have a “stranger” marry you?
We had my godfather marry us. He’s a judge in VA so he’d performed weddings before, but he had to get the ULM ordination to marry us in Maine.
Also, just because they are being ordained through a ministry does not mean the ceremony has to be religious. We had a secular ceremony.
Post # 11
You should probably start looking as some require marriage classes for 3 months ahead of time. Or maybe have friend or family member get ordained online?
Post # 12
We were having a tough time finding an officiant with availability for our October 2012 wedding — and that was late last year. We were also having an issue with paying $400-$600 for a stranger to perform a 20 minute ceremony. We grew up with vastly different religious beliefs (Lutheran vs. Jehovah Witness), so the church option didn’t fit us. Luckily we are in PA and have decided to go with the self-uniting marriage license, which means no need for an officiant….now we can have a friend and someone who knows us well lead the ceremony.
I would definitely suggest booking sooner rather than later…
Post # 13
Ugghhh I want to be done with this wedding planning already, I’m so stressed. We had a friend offer to be ordained for us, but my mom is against this. And my parents are paying for the wedding, so I feel like I have to take that into consideration. I mean, if that’s ultimately what we decide, she’ll deal with it. But I kind of also agree with her that it would be best to have someone with lots of experience do it. I will probably bite the bullet and hire someone I find online, but for some reason, I haven’t been able to do it yet. Oh yeah, and we were originally going to have my grandma do it because she’s a judge, but my parents don’t like her, and my grandpa’s health isn’t great, so she may have to sit with him during the wedding.
Post # 14
@redheadem: Does your grandma have any judge contacts who would do it?
That way you could meet with them before hand and know they’ve performed weddings before but it wouldn’t be a “total stranger off the internet”.
Post # 15
Literally, I JUST emailed officiants YESTERDAY and they are all available (notice my date is in about a month & a half). Relax, don’t stress, maybe contact a few & see if they do free “consultations” and will meet with you so you can see if it feels right or just feels weird.
Post # 16
I have an officiant but don’t have a dress yet, lol. But I think you should be fine. Don’t wait too long, though.