(Closed) Reality check please – don’t have an officiant

posted 7 years ago in September 2012
Post # 3
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The sooner the better, but if it is a Sunday and 6 months away, you still have some time.

Post # 4
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We don’t have one yet for our October wedding. I keep thinking I should be more stressed out about this but for some reason…I’m just not…yet.

Post # 5
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would get on that, even on Sundays people book things, even personal events. 

Post # 6
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

It can’t hurt to book now.  Get that off your plate so you won’t have to worry about it later.

Post # 7
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

hmm I think you still have time but I would be careful about having options and booking it far out enough that you can take your time in finding the right person. Is there a reason why you don`t want to book it yet? I also think because you are getting married on a Sunday , you might actually have an issue finding someone who works on that day.

Post # 9
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@redheadem:  Why not see if someone close to you would be willing to do the online ordaining so you can have it be personal?


Post # 10
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@redheadem:  Have you checked the rules for officiants where you are getting married? Could you have a friend or family member get “ordained” through the Universal Life(Light?) Ministry so that you don’t have to have a “stranger” marry you?

We had my godfather marry us. He’s a judge in VA so he’d performed weddings before, but he had to get the ULM ordination to marry us in Maine. 

Also, just because they are being ordained through a ministry does not mean the ceremony has to be religious. We had a secular ceremony.

Post # 11
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You should probably start looking as some require marriage classes for 3 months ahead of time. Or maybe have friend or family member get ordained online?

Post # 12
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We were having a tough time finding an officiant with availability for our October 2012 wedding — and that was late last year.  We were also having an issue with paying $400-$600 for a stranger to perform a 20 minute ceremony. We grew up with vastly different religious beliefs (Lutheran vs. Jehovah Witness), so the church option didn’t fit us. Luckily we are in PA and have decided to go with the self-uniting marriage license, which means no need for an officiant….now we can have a friend and someone who knows us well lead the ceremony.

I would definitely suggest booking sooner rather than later…

Post # 14
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@redheadem:  Does your grandma have any judge contacts who would do it?

That way you could meet with them before hand and know they’ve performed weddings before but it wouldn’t be a “total stranger off the internet”.

Post # 15
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t stress! 

Literally, I JUST emailed officiants YESTERDAY and they are all available (notice my date is in about a month & a half). Relax, don’t stress, maybe contact a few & see if they do free “consultations” and will meet with you so you can see if it feels right or just feels weird.

Post # 16
9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have an officiant but don’t have a dress yet, lol.  But I think you should be fine.  Don’t wait too long, though.

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