Post # 1
Just trying to start a conversation topic here because I’m bored at work. hehe. I was watching SYTTD and Randy’s new show this weekend when it got me thinking – do you find the plethora of wedding gown shows have altered your wedding dress expectations? Whether it be budget wise, experience wise, etc. do you think it had impacted your expectations?
Honestly, for me at least, it has. Before I got enegaged and started looking at dresses, I thought a budget of 5k for a dress was the norm and if you went down to 3k it would be hard to find anything. Needless to say, it isn’t a reflection of real life but I feel like shows like SYTTD have formed unrealistic ideals in my head. lol
Post # 3
For me personally, my expectations were the same prior to all of these wedding TV shows. But it seems to have become the norm that people think paying $5k for a dress is reasonable. I particularly hate when people assume that paying $10k for a Panina dress is the norm and say, “oh well, Daddy will pony up for it.” I have several friends who paid less than $1k and got a beautiful dress.
Post # 4
It did, I was somewhat surprised that there are soooo many options under 2k. So I was glad when I discovered what can be bought with a “small budget”
Post # 5
Before I got engaged I thought spending over $1,500 was insane. But then after seeing how many beautiful gowns were out there I ended up spending $4,200. TV definelty allowed me to see what else was out there before I even got to go shopping.
Post # 6
I think it’s important to remember that those shows highlight the craziest and most extreme of shoppers and isn’t representative of the average bride-to-be.
I found SYTTD helpful because they drop a lot of the dress “lingo” and talk about different types of fabrics and what works for summer vs winter, day vs evening.
I don’t like, however, the attitudes I see some brides have on the show. The self-centered, world-revolves-around-me attitude. Sometimes, I think that gives real-life brides the “ok” to act that way, like it’s expected and tolerated.
Post # 7
I think i always knew that dresses are expensive because I like designer clothes (affording them is another story). What I did learn from wedding dress shows is not to listen to the salesperson and trust your gut. They will tell you everything looks awesome on you even when the dress is making you look like a linebacker wearing tulle.
Post # 8
Those shows have definitely changed my expectations, but I still love them. My actual wedding budget is far below what I thought it would be so it is a bit hard to see these shows when I know I can’t afford a single dress they show…
In the same way that TLC came out with a plus-size show, I think they need to have a budget bride show as well. I’d watch it.
Post # 9
I’ve always loved looking at beautiful wedding dresses.
But I also knew that I’d never pay more than $500 for one.
Post # 10
@DeeVine1217: No, I actually still think all that stuff is not really reality! They are fun to watch but definitely not normal for a regular bride. At least that is my perception!
Post # 11
I thought the norm to spend on a dress was $3k + from watching those shows. Now I know that’s not the case. I’ve also learned that my family is normal. Haha!
Post # 12
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I like watching them (still!) because you see different styles, fabrics, etc etc. It’s nice to know what’s out there. Before I started looking I was stressing because I thought I would never be able to afford a wedding dress because you can’t find anything under $2k. What a nice surprise to discover that if you don’t need to have heard of the designer of your dress before you walk through the door, there are tons of options out there. My dress doesn’t need to look great in a magazine, it needs to look great on me.
Oh, and I learned that I am much saner than I thought.
Post # 13
Completely agree with PPs, I watched those shows for years before I got engaged, and I thought it was the norm to spend AT LEAST $1,500 to $5,000 on a dress. The thought of spending that amount of money on a dress – to wear once – always made my stomach hurt.
After joining the bee, I learned all about ways to find bargains on dresses, from floor samples to pre-owned sites, even the replica sites (which I had no clue even existed). Thank goodness for you ladies and The Bee.
Post # 14
I actually had never even seen SYTTD or any of those other, current wedding-related shows prior to purchasing my gown in September 2008. My knowledge of what was “out there” was limited to what I had seen in bridal magazines, and my knowledge of budgets for wedding gowns was quite dated (from when I had been engaged many years before but eventually canceled that wedding.) Occasionally, I wish I had known more of what was available in the marketplace before I selected my gown.
Post # 15
I think I subconsciously upped the budget 🙂
Post # 16
@DeeVine1217: In a way, yes… like when I hear a wedding dress costs “only” $1,000 I wonder what it looks like. Silly really. For myself I am going to go w. a really inexpensive dress… maybe not even a wedding dress. Just something white/cream colored. I looove the big expensive dresses, but for me that would be a waste of $$. If I had all the money in the world then bring on the 30K dresses lol. I looove SYTTD.