(Closed) Realllllly sad/mad/upset right now

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@cherryblossomlove:  I am sorry to hear things aren’t going as planned, but as your wedding is awhile away still I would suggest amending the original guest list and i inviting you “plan b” list. Nobody needs to know that they weren’t on the original list. On another note, if you have already started putting deposits down, you are going to lose a lot of money to cancel to elope. Stay positive, your wedding will be one of the best days of your life! 

Post # 5
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That stinks. : ( I think it will still be a blast though. As long as you two are happy and have all the elements a great party needs you will be A-Ok. Is there any way the venue might put the extra money towards another service they could offer? I’m not sure if they’d be more inclined to do so since they would still be keeping the money. If you can’t get any back you might as well try to have it spent on something other than empty plates.

Since you are worried about people not knowing each other why not get/make some of those conversation starter favors? That might be fun. I know Michaels sells them pre-made if you don’t want to make them yourself.

Post # 6
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Do you have too much money tied into your deposits to just cancel? Maybe you could just elope on a Destination Wedding where you were going to go for your Honeymoon instead..you could always fly your photogs out to your Destination Wedding instead of where you are planning now and still have gorgeous pictures. I”m sorry you’re feeling this way 🙁

Post # 9
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Stay positive!

I know this is a very frustrating and worrisome situation to be in. However, I’m going to piggyback on Smithy’s idea and also suggest to invite your Plan B guests (those ppl who you wanted to invite but possibly couldn’t).

Also, I would get pretty upset if I heard some of the excuses given and the wedding isn’t until December.

Post # 10
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve heard its typical/expected for 10% of guests to end up declining – which probably feels like a lot more when you’re having a 50 person wedding than 150, so I totally get it.

– Siblings tend to go through “stuff” and end up making up – so don’t totally rule out FI’s brother yet – no matter how bad things are now, when it comes to family, you can never totally rule out them making up.

– It will still be fun!

– as PP mentioned, you have until 8 weeks before the wedding for invites to go out in the proper amount of time, which gives you a a LONG time to a) consider friends you hadn’t before, and b) end up making new friends

– IT WILL STILL BE FUN!!!!

Post # 11
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2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@cherryblossomlove: I know it’s hard but it’ll all work out in the long run. You will be amazed the number of people who will decline and then call you later to let you know they can come. As mentioned above, family is family. After all the drama is said and done, they will be family at the end of the day. I’m sure they will come to their senses. Enjoy your dress and finding those cute flats for them. It’ll all work out. It always does. =)

Post # 14
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363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had 27 people come from 40ish invited. Loved it so much better that way. Sorry you are upset and sad though! My DH’s brother and sister-in-law originally rsvp’d no due to a fight but ended up coming so people can change their mind! Stay positive. It will be an amazing day regardless 

Post # 15
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am sure that your day will still be amazing! And like the old saying goes….it’s all about qaulity NOT quantity!! 🙂

Post # 16
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@cherryblossomlove:  

It would only be bridezilla if you called the people who said they weren’t coming and went all

YOU MUST NOT LIKE ME!!!!!! F*CK YOU!!!!!!! I HOPE YOU STILL GET ME A GODDAMN PRESENT! BUT YOU’RE NOT MY FRIEND ANYMORE!!!!!

 

 

😉

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