(Closed) really?

posted 7 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wait until she sees you in the dress.  Don’t send her pictures of skinny models in normal size dresses.  Once she sees you it will change her mind. 

My dress was a size 18. It was not a stereotypical plus size dress. 

Post # 4
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Listen to your Fiance. Please.

She can still be involved without making comments that make you feel less than confident. I am a street size 20 and my wedding dress is SOOOO not the “typical bigger girl dress.” I agree that a lot of those are horrible.

Btw, I went to David’s with semi-low expectations and found an AMAZING dress that is neither a “fat girl dress” nor boring. 🙂 There is hope, I swear!

Post # 5
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6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I understand how you feel – the fact that bridal is usually at least two sizes up from my (already too big for me) street size can feel awful sometimes, and I have had some confidence issues about that already, even though I haven’t actually tried any dresses on yet. 

But you have to remember, you are *not* a size.  You are going to be a beautiful bride, and fortunately, a lot of great wedding designers offer a wide range of sizes.  Just check to make sure the brands you are browsing have offerings in your likely bridal size (Alfred Angelo definitely does!), and the next time your mom makes a comment about how you should get a plus size dress instead, just cheerfully respond that AA (or whoever) DOES make this dress in plus size! 

Post # 6
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

LISTEN TO YOUR Fiance, GIRL! HE’S ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!

If your mother is unable to see a gown you like without making a weight comment, stop sending her pictures! I’m a size 10 and even I had to second guess certain dresses from seeing the pictures of a size 0 model wearing them.

I know you want her to be involved but sometimes it’s just easier to take the loss and be happy, not feel down about yourself. Who the hell wnats to feel like a chubbo before they go try wedding gowns on?!

You’ll look beautiful on your big day, and you know you will! Stop fretting over what she says/thinks and go forward and try whatever dress you want to try on! Good luck and I hope all goes well and you find an AMAZING dress!!!

Post # 7
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2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Listen to your Fiance.  She can be involved in other ways.  Being involved this way isn’t working for you.  

Post # 8
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3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Why dont you show her links of us Plus Size gals in our dresses?

I hate when mothers, grandmothers, aunt, cousins, friends do this to us. You do not know what will suit you until you try it on YOUR body. The dresses you LOVE online, might look hideous in person and vice versa! (I know that from first hand experience)

If she isnt being the support you need, you need to find another support system/group/person, you need to be uplifted and encouraged esp. in dress shopping!

Alfred Angelo is a great place with plenty of size selection, making it that much more pleasurable of an experience for us Plus Size gals! Have a blast and enjoy it! Try on ALL silhouettes to find what you like and dont like; you might be surprised!

XO

Post # 10
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maggie Sottero is AMAZING! I’m wearing the Venecia. I guaruntee you’ll find something of hers if you’re unable to find a dress from anywhere else. Good luck, lady!!

Post # 11
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@harleyquinn29: Dont be discouraged. I was at first and I tried on some dresses and they were fab. (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/1st-dress-shopping-trip)

I think some people have this perception that all big clothes are ugly and thats where her mind is with it. I know you want her to be apart and in on your happiness so it might be best to send her pics of you in the dresses (Since she is in another state) and that will change her mind about things…

Good Luck and Enjoy the moments….

 

 

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