(Closed) Really Angry with Maid of Honor

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Wow! I can’t believe that her bf’s acting so childish! That’s absolutely ridiculous. I would be mad at your Maid/Matron of Honor too! Tell him he needs to get over it & LET it be all water under the bridge so that everyone’s happy and there’s no ridiculous, uncecessary drama at the wedding. That’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, which is your best friend, which needs to persuade her Boyfriend or Best Friend that he’s acting like a child.

If she’s going to be with him for a while, and you plan to be around your Maid/Matron of Honor a lot (which you DO), then he’s got to realize that just because one thing happened in the past, he can’t let that bother him in the future.

I’d just straight out tell your Maid/Matron of Honor that she needs to have a talk with him, and he needs to understand that he’s dating your Maid/Matron of Honor, & best friend..and needs to let the past be the past.

So sorry you’ve got to deal with this! UGH I hate when guys or girls in a relationship stand in each others way, it’s so ridic!!! Good luck!

Post # 4
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hm. Okay, so just to make sure I understand this correctly, your MOH’s boyfriend wants nothing to do with you….but wants to come to your wedding? A day that’s all about the two of you? And a day in which you’ll be spending a substantial amount of time and resources to be with the people who are most important to you? Odd. Methinks there’s a bit of your MOH’s influence there.Anyhoo, my first instinct is to of course dis-invite this person. You have been very accomodating and he is being extremely rude. However, if this person is important to your Maid/Matron of Honor, that could cause a lot of problems. I recommend talking to her and seeing what the deal is and what she thinks should happen now. If he won’t (IMO) grow up and act like a civilized human being, she may agree that perhaps she should come to your wedding alone.

Post # 5
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well for one, I think she needs to realize that her man is being a jerk here. Is she taking his side and thinking that he can still insist on coming to the wedding and he won’t even come over for dinner? IMO, I think that since you made an exception for him to come to the wedding, he needs to be a grownup and get over it, be polite, and come to dinner. You need to be careful though about how you handle it b/c I can see lots of potential for your Maid/Matron of Honor getting upset at you…

Post # 6
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would just try to calmly confront her about the issue. Sounds like she wants her bf there more than her bf wants to be there. Just tell her how it doesn’t make sense to you and don’t say it in a way that makes her feel you are attacking her. Maybe prep the convo with something about how something’s been bothering you and you want to make sure that you’re both on the same page. Show some concern for her relationship too, sounds like he’s at least a little bit controlling. Kindly tell her you don’t like the idea of someone who doesn’t like you or Fiance coming to the wedding.. doesn’t make much sense in ANY way you look at it. If you make it seem like he’s the one insulting you more than her, she might be more open to talking about it haha.

Just try not to be critical, and be open to what she has to say. Maybe there’s some kind of misunderstanding about how her bf feels about you and Fiance.

I think it’s rather rude to bluntly say, “Oh, my boyfriend doesn’t like you or your Fiance and he wants nothing to do with you, so I’m not coming over.” Screw that! But to avoid a major blow out, just be sweet as pie to her about it!

This isn’t something you should let go.. esp due to her position in the wedding. Good luck!

Post # 7
2765 posts
Sugar bee

I wonder if from his perspective, he feels like you guys purposefully excluded him from the wedding… and is still feeling snubbed, even though you reversed your decision?

Post # 8
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think you have to go through the formality of disinviting him to the wedding.  It sounds like he might choose on his own to not come and actually telling the Maid/Matron of Honor he can’t come anymore might cause some drama you can probably avoid.  And him really wanting to come was probably your Maid/Matron of Honor talking.  If she couldn’t get him to come to dinner, she’s not going to get him to come to the wedding.

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