(Closed) Really CNN? Negotiating Monogamy?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you negotiate monogamy?
    Yes, definitely : (0 votes)
    No! : (22 votes)
    88 %
    We are in this situation now! : (0 votes)
    Maybe... if it would help our marriage : (3 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No freaking way…

     

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    No way. Of course monogamy is possible….lame article.

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think if we both could agree it was for us down the road, then it would be ok.  But only in that instance, and honestly, I can’t see that happening! 😉

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Nope.  Not for us.  I guess if the couple was ok with it but that could open a door you can’t close.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    perhaps if you were to ask a demographic of people who have been married for a long time, you would get different answers than just asking people who are in the honeymoon phase of pre-marriage/marriage.

    also, a significant percentage of the general population are in unhappy marriages – that could also skew things a bit.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Not for me, but if people want to do that and it helps their marriage, who am I to judge?  I try to stay out of other people’s business.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @crayfish: Great post

    I think the article raises at least one important point.  Opening up the communication between a couple is extremely important in negotiating on all topics, not just sex.  Being able to honestly admit what interests you outside of monogomy or even entertain the idea in your head doesn’t threaten your marriage. 

    I definitely think that the feelings on this topic become less polarized as you get older, and as you see first hand how relationships change and mutate over the years.  When I was 20, I would have had a much more black and white view of the idea than I do as a 40-something.  🙂

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