- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza
It sounds to me like you have some communication breakdown. Either he’s willfully ignoring your requests, just doesn’t ‘hear’ you, or thinks he’s doing things just fine and doesn’t understand you want more/something different, etc.
There’s this thing called Love Languages, and I know it can sound hokey, but it really makes a ton of sense when you’re trying to figure out compatibility or just how to communicate better and improve things in a relationship. For instance, from a lot of details you give, it sounds like you are someone who likes love expressed to oneself in the form of doing nice things, material things, and being taken out, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. There are some men that LOVE to dote on their wives/gfs this way: they *express* love this way. And: it’s not the *only* love language you may have, you may express it and receive it in a couple different ways.
Anyway, just something to consider… look it up if you like, it may give you some insight. It was a topic my FI-to-be and I discussed as we were dating and courting one another. We liked to talk prettty transparently about all that stuff.. I consider it part of the ‘values’ part of finding out if you share the same values. I think people assume values it just morals and/or religion and/or political preferences, but it’s also what you place priority in a relationship and how you communicate.