Post # 1
I’m having a really rough night and just need a place to vent but I can’t talk to anyone IRL. In the past 3 months or so no less than 7 (or more, lost track) couples around us have announced pregnancies. The hardest part about it is that they are all due around the time that we were hoping for. They are all friends, cousins, acquantances, you name it. I truly am happy for them but it’s really difficult. I cry each tme I hear a new announcement. Another couple just announced tonight. I need to stop letting it affect me but it’s too hard. I think I’m just too emotional lately. I cant speak for all of them but I know that at least 3 of them got pregnant on the first try, as they have made it pretty obvious to everyome around them. I’m happy that they don’t have any fertility issues, but it’s a huge smack in the face for people like me who are almost 6 months in, on clomid, and no luck when they go on about how easy it was.
I guess it’s just so frustrating because this baby boom is happening right in the midst of our troubles. I know that they can’t help it and they don’t know it, but it certainly makes what we had planned on being a fairly carefree process into a stressful one. If everyone around me wasn’t getting pregnant I don’t know if I’d feel as much pressure as I do. Don’t get me wrong, it would still be tough this far in, but I don’t think I’d be crying every other day as I hear announcement after announcement.
Again, this is just a vent. I am happy for my friends, I just wish the timing didn’t work out the way it did.
Thanks for listening, if you read all of this.
Post # 3
Hugs to you. I know it’s really tough to hear other peoples pregnancy announcements when you are having difficulty TTC. I’m 6 cycles TTC with no sticky baby yet, and so many of my friends are KU now. You are not alone! Hang in there!
Post # 4
@AnotherAnonyBee: Anyone having issues TTC has felt very similar to this so you are not alone. Everyone around me also has gotten pregnant without trying or in the first month of so of trying and i agree nothing is more annoying than people bragging about how fertile they are like it is some kind of competition. It can be hard because once someone you know is pregnant it feels like their pregnancy moves along so fast as every week is a milestone and growing belly is proof where when TTC it feels like everything moves so slow. Just try your best to limit how much time you dwell on not being pregnant and being down. Allow yourself to feel sad but don’t let this whole TTC journey be a time you look back on and not have allowed yourself any happiness. DH and I are trying to make the most of this time as just the two of us because once we do get pregnant we know that life will always be different. So as much as we want to get pregnant we are also loving and enjoying it being just us two while it still is.
Post # 5
I’m really sorry you have to go through this. I know life can sometimes suck. I also know there is nothing I can do to make you feel better or hurt any less but I hope that your turn to have a baby comes soon for you. I hope that all this suffering and pain is on it’s last legs and that you get your happy BFP very soon. I wish you love and hope for a brighter future and that your time will come very soon for you. All my love and prayers to you. xxx
Post # 6
@AnotherAnonyBee: Believe me, I have felt everything you are feeling. I was trying for 8 months when I got my BFP and, believe me, I would have wrapped myself in cotton wool in order to save my baby. Unfortunately it was not meant to be and baby’s heart stopping beating just under 10 weeks.
What I haved learned from this:
– life is not fair: why did i (who tried for so long) lose my baby? Why do you have to try for this long while others blink and get pregnant. I can name 10+ people who got pregnant first cycle trying and nearly wear this like a badge of honour!!!
– these experiences make us stronger and when we do get our babies we will love and cherish them all the more. I really believe this.
– TTC is an incredibly tough journey. Why does nobody tell us this? I suggest you find someone who has experienced something similar to talk about this to. It’s only in the past while I’ve started to do this and it really helps. I’m even going to go to counselling.
If you would like someone who has experienced the same to chat to feel free to pm me x
Post # 7
@AnotherAnonyBee: Also, do you mind me asking why you’re on clomid? My obs (while I was pregnant) is a fertility expert and I will be meeting her soon to discuss options. Im doing research at the moment.
Post # 8
🙁 big bear hugs to you! It’s so hard to accept pregnancies around you during this time. One of our closest friends (and the only couple who have a baby yet) announced theyre pregnant with #2…she has lots of issues and it has taken a good 18 months for this too happen (they weren’t REALLY trying, they believe very much in “if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t it doesn’t…mainly because they already have one) so I was so excited for her! But as soon as I heard I bawled and bawled and bawled. Lucky it wasn’t her who told me – it could have been awkward having that breakdown in front of her! Anyhow, I just wanted to share my sympathy and wish you all the very best and LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS OF ***BABY DUST***
Post # 9
Ah, that’s tough. I’m going through the same at the moment. At least now you can put your brave face on when you see her X
Post # 10
thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear that happened to you, I cannot imagine how that must feel but my heart goes out to you. I am on clomid bc I have extremely irregular cycles. I have gone almost two years without a period, both on and off of bc. I have had three on my own this year but we don’t know if I’m ovulating regularly and I can go months in between. I didn’t want to take it but it was our best option, and after months of trying with no luck it was just the next step.
Post # 11
Thank you all for your support. It truly means a lot to me. You brought tears to my eyes! Maybe it’s just the hormones, but either way it feels better to know that people out there know what you’re going through. It’s easier to talk to people who understand how it feels. I have a friend who is going through a ton of fertility treatments, as well, but I am not close enough to tell her about what I’m going through. I want to, but I think she would tell others. It is therapeutic to talk about it and I appreciate your kind words.
I hope that any of you who are in the same position get your bfp soon. I always feared I’d have to go through this, but the reality of it is even harder. You girls are great, thank you so much for your support!
Post # 12
*Big Hugs* I’m really sorry you’re having a tough time. I don’t really have any advice but just wanted to stop in to give you a virtual hug and to say I hope you get your beautiful BFP soon!
Post # 13
@AnotherAnonyBee: I’m so sorry you are going through this – I’m going through the exact same thing. Three of my very best, closest friends are giving birth very soon, and another just announced she’s pregnant with her second. I’ve tried to be as supportive as I could be during their pregnancies, but there were moments when it was just too much for me too handle. I’ve broken down over the fact that it seems some women get pregnant if her partner sneezes on her, whereas it would appear that, after 4 cycles, for my husband and me, it may end up being a whole different kind of journey.
All I can say to you is what I’ve told myself each time I’ve gotten my period since we started trying – hang in there, and count all of the blessings in your life. Life could be much, much worse, no matter what ends up happening with TTC.
Sending you love and baby dust!
Post # 14
TTC is so hard! I made a thread about the same issue not too long ago (link below if you feel like checking it out). I am just trying to remember that everything happens for a reason. I did shutdown when I found out an acquaintance is pregnant with her 2nd child and they werent even trying!
Post # 15
Ah, god love you. I really hope that they regulate your periods for you very soon.
Also, you should consider joining the 6+ month thread. There are lots of women who understand there and it’s a great place to vent!!!
Post # 16
I felt like this a lot now when we were TTC for a year, and I was extremely upset by all of the pregnacy announcements. Especially after a couple of losses.
However, now that I’m pregnant I look at it a lot differently.
You don’t know how long those people were trying to get pregnant, in most cases. Sure there is going to be the couple that accidently got pregnant or the ones that it only took one try. But for a majority of us, it takes a while. So just know that at one time, those people were in your shoes as well. And you’ll have your moment. And when you do, someone else is likely to be upset by it because they are still trying as well.
It’s completely normal to feel the way you do, but I just wanted to give you a little perspective from someone who has been in your shoes that is now on the other side.