(Closed) Really difficult decision to make…

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Can you have your mom babysit at your house instead of hers?  I think that would make a big difference and might give your mom a much needed break from the chaos over at her house…

ETA:  Have you looked into a nanny type situation?  My friend is a nanny and works with infants a lot… I think you can hire one through an agency and they tend to have better luck than a day care… Although it might be a bit expensive it’s an option.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do you have any other mom friends? Maybe they would trade babysitting with you? I understand not wanting to leave your infant with a daycare, I didnt want to, either.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you have any aunts that are retired or maybe cousins that stay at home that wouldn’t mind watching baby for some extra cash?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@les105:  I second this…

Maybe neighbors with kids or if you go to a birthing class or anything with any expectant moms that would be willing to help you out for cheap?  My sister has three kids of her own and she baby sits for one of their neighbors kids a few times a week… She loves and treats the baby as her own (as do we when he’s over… he’s so stinkin cute!) that’s always an option as well.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I second those that are suggesting having your mum babysit in your home or getting a nanny. Cancelling teh internship seems extreme IMO.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@heathaah:  if you have a midwife or your doctor even can reccomend some local groups or something… They might even know of some mom’s who would be willing to do that.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@heathaah:  None of these options are ideal but it’s short term and I think it’s worth it to get your internship done and get that degree. I think it’s smart not to count on your mom for this, although very disapointing.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@heathaah:  You also could try for a nanny share which is what I’m gonna do. If you meet a womens group or people in a childbirth class you could split the cost of a nnay who would watch both kids…

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Is this internship a full-time position?  Also, how flexible is your husband’s job?  Is it possible to approach your internship supervisor/director and ask for flexible hours, or is this something that is set in stone?

I’ll be the first to admit that I was VERY against daycare, especially in-home daycare, when I was pregnant with Addie.  However, our situation changed, and now Addie attends the most wonderful daycare (an in-home facility at that!) full-time, and will continue attending a couple days a week even after I quit work.  My final suggestion would be to look into what is actually available in your area; not all daycares are created equal, and unfortunately some really bad facilities bring down the image of the whole group.  As someone who had similar views to yours, I  would just say to keep an open mind until you find out what is actually available to you.  You never know what you’ll find.  🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@heathaah:  have you spoken to yout mother about how your famlies behaviour is what is preventing you from letting her babysit?Maybe talking to her about the why,might spur her into action. See if you can come up with an action plan,and if she follows through,and your brothers do the same then you would be more comfortable allowing her to babysit.I know theres seems a lot that they all need to do,but a lot of progress can be made from now to september.

Also I know you have probably done this already,but maybe talk to your people at the internship,is there any possibility that the company offers an on site creche or daycare?

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