- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
This isn’t the first time I have posted about my soon to be in laws, Rant #1.. But bee’s I just can’t with these ladies…
Yesterday was my Bridal Shower/ Bachelorette Party and I had let my FSIL’s know well ahead of time, and I also called my Future Mother-In-Law to make sure she knew (which she hadn’t) So I was under the impression that they would be attending.. Well last week I was in AZ all week getting things done and prepared for the wedding, and I flew home the day before the shower.
Day prior I had sent a text to see if they were coming because Maid/Matron of Honor needed head count for food, no reply. I called Future Mother-In-Law day of and sent her at text, no reply. Finally as my mom and I headed out to MOH’s house, I received a call from Future Mother-In-Law. Basically this is how the call went..
Mother-In-Law “Oh well you know I’ve been trying to call you all week long (She hadn’t) to let you know we probably can’t make it.
“So are you guys gonna come?”
Mother-In-Law “Um well you know money has been tight ( I know for a fact that it is not, and they have no expenses, living at Future Brother-In-Law house for free) ..”
“Do you need gas money, is that the problem? Transportation?”
Mother-In-Law “Oh no honey we have gas money, its just, well you know, we’re trying to make sure we have money for when my son (FI) and his groomsman come home so we can cook them a nice big dinner.. so we’d rather spend money for that, and we don’t have money for the bachelorette part…or money to bring anything. so you know..”
“You don’t have to bring anything, no gift…., and not everyone is going to go to both events but I see you have more important things to spend on so yea…. “
Mother-In-Law “Well you know… awh darn I wish I could have known earlier, so I could have caught a ride with you..but well I’ll see what I can do.. I’ll talk to the girls.”
They never showed up, and one of Future Sister-In-Law even had to nerve to FB message me… not a phone call or even a text to let me know she couldn’t go.. Saying how she’s soooo “sorry” to have a good time and she was so happy for us “FI and me”. The thing is this isn’t the first time this has happened. My last two birthday’s Fiance had planned surprise parties, the first one he and my mom had asked if Future Mother-In-Law could make a dish that she usually makes for events, and she flat out said NO. This last birthday, my Fiance planned a surprise Bday dinner at Olive Garden, and they didn’t go. In fact when we stopped by after at their house they were all like “Oh yea, happy birthday, sorry we couldn’t go.” and Future Mother-In-Law even said the SAME THING, “Oh mija, we were trying to make sure we had money to cook a nice dinner for my son (fi) before he leaves back to Texas.
Fi is so upset at how his family is and tells me that his mom ALWAYS uses $$ as an excuse.. and to prove her “reasons” wrong, Future Mother-In-Law called my Maid/Matron of Honor back today telling HER, note me, that she was sorry she couldn’t go because she wasn’t feeling well, and she didn’t want to go knowing she would have to go back home in a few hours..
I guess to sum it up, it makes me sad that they wouldn’t want to be a part this. They claim and talk sooo much “Oh I love you,” “You’re the best thing for my son” Blah blah.. but yet they act like this. I have no idea how a family like that can have such a wonderful man come out of it! I LOVE my Fiance and I am so excited to marry him in 2 weeks!!!!!!!! But I jusg can’t deal with his family =( At this point, I don’t want to see them, I don’t want to talk to them, I honestly wouldn’t care if they showed up for the wedding.