(Closed) Really disappointed in FMIL and FSIL's.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MissMalibu:  I’m sorry for the way they are acting 🙁 will you have to have alot of contact with them after you get married or will it only be like a few times a year type deal?

Post # 6
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

That sucks.  It does. I don’t know if your FSIL’s are married or not but if not .. you can be busy and not be able to make their showers.  

 

I know it’s petty but so is their behavior. 

Post # 7
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5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MissMalibu:  while it’s nice to spend time with your family you can’t expect them to always want to be there with you. My SIL declines anything, ANYTHING she is invited to. She didn’t want to attend our ceremony (eloped, 5 minutes away, could have caught a ride with her parents), she didn’t want to come to dinner afterwards (5 minutes away in the other direction, could have caught a ride with her parents). Some people are just like that. 

Post # 8
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4523 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MissMalibu:  actions speak louder than words, my friend. They clearly dont want to have any part in it but don’t have the balls to say “these festivities really don’t interest us.”  I’m not going to say to turn this into a huge war, though, as I’ve seen an offended bride cut off 10 year friendships because someone couldnt make it to a bridal shower. 

 

I dont think they outright dislike you. It sucks you are disappointed, but these activities arent always as important to some folks and they don’t feel the need to suck it up and go for the brides sake. Does it stink for the bride? Of course. Does it make them bad people? Not neccesarily.  For the sake of the relationship, I would just go into everything else with the expectation they won’t participate and leave it at that.

Post # 9
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissMalibu:  They sound wack. I would lower my expectations because they keep burning you over and over. I also wouldn’t go out of my way to invite or include them in things in the future. If they get upset about that then you can let them know the deal…that they never made an effort to support you and you didn’t want to bother inviting them. You’re marrying him, not his family so you don’t have to be buddy buddy with them. And it sounds like the distance may be a positive thing for you guys.

Post # 10
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MissMalibu:  Well there’s something to look forward too 🙂 

Post # 11
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70 posts
Worker bee

I totall agree with badabing88. They are not being very kind or gracious to you, but I doubt they truly dislike you. Just know this is the way they are and don’t take it personally.

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