(Closed) Really dislike MIL's "grandma" name…what to do?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Should I say anything to MIL regarding her "grandma" name?
    Tactfully bring up the sound-alike factor, and that you're not the only one who's noticed : (67 votes)
    39 %
    Keep your mouth shut and get over it : (99 votes)
    58 %
    Other--please comment below : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 32
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Most muslims I know use either Ammi or Amma, and a few of my south Indian friends use it too. Generally to mean mother, sometimes grandma.

    Oddly enough my punjabi ‘family’ use ‘mummy’ to mean aunt (describing your aunt who is married to your ‘mamma’) and it was very confusing for a while trying to figure out which name to call which people.

    My son went through a stage of calling my mum, ‘mum’ and me by my first name, but because that is all he heard people call her. He soon grew out of it, it’ll be fine.

    Post # 33
    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @apex:  I had never heard of grandmothers choosing their grandmother monikers.  Like yours, my grandmothers were also called Grandma [FirstName].  My husband’s grandmother is Oma, but that’s because, as other posters have mentioned, that’s grandma in German and the fam is German.

    To me it seems kind of strange for grandmothers to choose their names, especially since a nickname doesn’t automatically make you old, but hey — to each her own!  It totally makes me think of Arrested Development, where the kids call their grandmother “Gangy.”  😀

    Post # 34
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well…I actually told my mother I don’t like the name she picked out (it was very conceited).  And now I feel awful about it.  I should have just let it go and worked behind the scenes to alter it…

    I suggest letting it go.  She’s excited, and like others have said, the name may not stick anyways.



    Post # 35
    4045 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I agree the rhyming is kind of annoying. It does make it hard to say the words together. But I don’t think it mattters which name the kid says first. It’s not a  competition!!

    Post # 36
    11268 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    to be honest, i can’t even remember the first word my son said.  i didn’t care, i was just so excited that he said a word. 

    it’s really not a big deal what your baby  says first so focus on the positive.

    Post # 37
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My Future Mother-In-Law had declared herself MoMo for my FSIL’s son..  I think that just sounds awful.  My grandparents were always just Grandma and Grandpa but Fiance has a Nanny and Pa.  I’ve already hinted to Fiance that there is no way our children will be referring to his mother as MoMo.

    Post # 38
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t see what the big deal is, my daughter said daddy before mommy. My kids call my Mother-In-Law Mimi….I think you should get over it.

    Post # 40
    3682 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m glad it worked out! I think it’s so weird that she picked a “grandma name” that isn’t culturally specific to her.

    Post # 41
    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013


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