Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I officially have bad wedding luck…
My cousin is in college and agreed to be our wedding DJ and run the sound at the outdoor ceremony. We offered to pay him quite a bit of $$ because he’s good at it and we know how being broke in college can be!
As of May, he was still down for it. So I just checked in with him on Facebook last night (2 weeks before the wedding!) and he messaged me back today and said he won’t be getting in town until literally right before our wedding on the day of because he is working at a summer camp all day. He’s wondering if we can just “wing it” and if my FH can run the sound at the beginning if my cousin doesn’t make it on time?! I love how I wouldn’t have even known had I not messaged him…
UGHHH. I feel like everyone has taken a “lack of common sense” pill lately…
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Take your money elsewhere and FAST. That is insane on his part.
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
wow thats very inconsiderate of him
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Yeah, I wish I just would have known so I could have lined up a real professional DJ… ugh.
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Bumble Beekeeper
Yikes. Although how would you find someone on such short notice?
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
@mwitter80: I know. FH is on the phone with a friend of ours who used to do some DJ-ing when he was younger to see if he would be willing to do it even though he doesn’t really run his service anymore…
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Don’t you just wanna jack some people up? Seriously that kid should know better. If you commit to something you have committed to it. Sometimes I just think men are clueless.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
@MsBrooklynA: I know! And I keep trying to tell myself I was irresponsible in college too and would have done the same thing, but then I realize I haven’t been that irresponsible since my elementary school days. Just trying to kick into gear now instead of being pissed, but it’s hard!
Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
You should definitely let him know what a crappy position he put you guys in as well.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
Wow, i totally understand your frustraion! Remember though that he is young and probably, or most definitlty has no idea how important this is to you as he’s never been a bride before.
I would say this also applies to anyone else who is helping in a wedding that kinda srugs things off, they have no idea whats involved or how important is was to you.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
@KatyElle: There is so much drama in my family that as much as I want to put him in his place, I just sent him a probably “too nice” message telling him we aren’t going to be needing him anymore.
Thank GOODNESS our friend just agreed to do it and says he thinks it will be a blast.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
I agree with missflowerball. He probably has no clue that this is so stressful to you. I mean, wedding aren’t a big deal, right? You just show up, watch people who are dressed funny exchange some vows, see some people cry, and then you go dance and eat. No problem, how much planning can it take?
Yeah, that was my idea of weddings before I started learning about them/planning one. Just tell him that you know what it’s like being broke and in college and that you’re glad he’s got a job for the summer but that you would really, really appreciate him being there for the rehearsal or whatever so you guys can go over the music. If you aren’t mad and show him that you really need him and possibly offer to help get him there however possible, he will probably (if he’s a decent person) do what he can to leave the summer camp early. With some time in advance, he can probably talk to coworkers to have someone cover for him or explain the situation to the camp leader who could let him go earlier.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
@shannag: Not sure if you missed my post above, but we found someone else to do it instead so I don’t really think it’s necessary at this point. I do agree he’s young and doesn’t perhaps realize what a big deal it is, but it still sucked!
But oh well, it’s all taken care of so no reason to obsess over it now. 🙂
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