Post # 1
Arggg. So I’ve been reading how many times a heartbeat isn’t visible on early ultrasounds like in the sixth week and women all over the internet post freaking out that they couldn’t see the heartbeat at six weeks however many days and have to go back for another one at which point they often do see the heartbeat. I am an anxious person and really wanted to spare myself this worry and not go in until 7 weeks at the absolute earliest. I told the nurse this on the phone and she said that’s when she was going to schedule me for. She put me on hold for a while and then came back to say OK you’re all set for January 14th. I just said OK and hung up and then realized that’s only 6 weeks 4 days. Grrrr.
The really bad thing is I am a social worker at this same hospital system and have no problem advocating for patients or telling patients to stand up for themselves and their needs but I am for some reason scared to call back and request this appointment be changed.
Any advice? I’m so frustrated with myself.
Post # 3
@PatientBee: If you really don’t want it, why can’t you call back and push it a little? You don’t even have to say why. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell them that you double-booked yourself (pregnancy brain??) and will have to push this one back by a week.
Post # 4
You don’t need to be honest with them. Just tell them you’re not available that day anymore and would look to book the next week.
Post # 5
Are you even sure they are doing an ultrasound? My doctor doesn’t do them until 12 weeks for the NT scan as long as everything appears to be normal. My first appt with him was to be at 8 weeks, just a regular visit no ultrasound. However, I had some early spotting so I needed an early u/s to check things out. I suppose some may do a dating ultrasound though, so if that’s the case just say you need to rechedule for the following week. They probably won’t care when you schedule it if it is a routine appt.
Post # 6
@PatientBee: You have every right to advocate for yourself…no one else is going to do it for you. This is your pregnancy! And as PP said, you don’t have to give a reason for wanting a later appointment. Just call back and say you realized you had double booked and is there any way you can get an appt after ___ date.
Post # 7
Are you sure you’ll be getting an u/s? My 7w1d appointment was just going over family medical history and risk factors during the pregnancy!
And taking a LOT of blood.
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: Oh yes I’m positive. They said the word ultrasound about 10 times and I have to go to a different office to get it before my appointment. They also did betas. I had my second one today and it’s normal. I am healthy, have no hx of any medical issues and am not high risk. I think this is overkill.
It is a dating ultrasound despite the fact that I was using opks and tested early until I got my bfp and know exactly how far along I am.
Post # 9
If you know when you ovulated and don’t want the ultrasound then you shouldn’t HAVE to go.
I did mine at 6w2d, DR thought I was farther along based on LMP. I thought I was 6+3 (I was off by a day) I got to hear his little heartbeat. But I went into it knowing it’s a really low chance of being able to pick up a heartbeat.
Post # 10
As a social worker, I’m sure you know better than anyone that you don’t HAVE to do any tests you’re not comfortable with. If its bothering you, it’s time to grow some lady balls & cancel!
Post # 11
@PatientBee: i agree with PP, cancel or push it back if you don’t want it that early! You don’t have to be honest as to why.
And as a side note, GET OFF GOOGLE! I say that in kind of jest because who am I to talk, but especially in early pregnancy, you’re only going to worry yourself with all of the bad stories out there!
Post # 12
@MrsRugbee: I know I know. I’m being dumb. I am going to reschedule.
Post # 13
@PatientBee: Good thing you are re-scheduling! If you aren’t comfortable with the date, switch it. You call the shots!
Post # 14
@PatientBee: I’d most definitely cancel but I have a different reasoning to consider. They don’t need to do an u/s to “date” you. There are others ways of doing that. Not only that but they may just be trying to squeeze some extra $$$ out of you. Sometimes, depending on your insurance and where you live, they will only cover two u/s, usually the 12 week and 20 week. So be careful with that going forward. My doctor ordered me an u/s at 8 weeks because I was measuring large and told me it would be covered since she had a valid reason for ordering it. While it was covered, they wouldn’t cover my 12 week then, so I paid out of pocket (which was only 100+ dollars but still).
Post # 15
@PatientBee: 😉 You can do it!! This is the first step in advocating for the pregnancy & birth you want! So many women get bullied by medical staff so way to go!!
Post # 16
@PatientBee: Call and reschedule – no biggie. At 6w4d we could see the little heartbeat flickering away on both the abdominal and transvaginal u/s. (I am pretty tiny though so I know that makes a bit of a difference).
I know it’s hard to advocate for yourself some time (I have an issue with it too) but once you have a child you’re going to have to be their advocate. I’ve been using pregnancy as my chance to brush up on those skills so I am well equipped and comfortable to not only advocate for myself, but more importantly for my daughter when she arrives!
Congrats on baby! Happy and healthy 9 months! )