(Closed) Really, FMIL???

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Since parents are not obligated to contribute to the wedding expenses, I guess you are lucky to get anything at all. Not knowing their fiances, perhaps the new kitchen floor and applicances have tightened up their budget. I mean DH and me are buying a new house and we will not be struggling buut there will be a lot less extras in our lives for a while.

Post # 4
5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

was she joking? that sounds like a joke..

Post # 5
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

Hmm…sorry, but I have to take the stance of “it’s nobody’s responsibility to pay for your wedding except yourself.” My in-laws didn’t give us much towards our wedding either, but I certainly didn’t hold it against them. It’s not their responsibility to pay for my wedding…it’s mine, and my husband’s. I’m sorry they aren’t giving much, and that you had to ask for money from them, but they really didn’t have to give you anything at all.

Post # 6
3135 posts
Sugar bee

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@2PeasinaPod: <

what she said exactly.


And I am sure the baby remark was tongue-in-cheek

Post # 7
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is your wedding therefore it’s your responsibility to pay for it. If parents or other parties can help, that’s great but it should never be expected. Your Future Mother-In-Law agreed to give you the money you asked for so I would just be happy with that. So what if they give you $500 p/month for the next 3 months? They’re still giving you the money

I agree that the grandchild comment was a little odd but I would just try to be grateful for what they are offering you. 

Post # 8
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree that they’re under no obligation to give you money for the wedding.  However, it does sound like your Future Mother-In-Law was being really weird about it.  If they have the money and were willing to give it, then how wonderful.  If they don’t or aren’t, then they should just tell you that.  It’s strange that they’d be willing to donate, but attach all kinds of preconditions.  I agree it’s strange, but if you can get by without it and it makes you uncomfortable under these circumstances, I’d just decline.

Post # 9
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Did Ajoy77 delete her post? I’ve clicked several times and all I see it the title and the responses, but not her actual post…

Post # 10
3942 posts
Honey bee

I don’t see it either?

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