Post # 1
My wedding is this upcoming November 10th. We chose a venue that we really loved and still do love, yet we have only around 80 people now attending (not including the Groom and Bride) and the venue seems like it should have 150 due to space. I now feel so stressed and actually sad that over a handful of important people to us declined and some for very weird reasons. I now feel as if 80 people is going to look pathetic and as if we have no life or friends or supportive family. I’m SO frustrated! I want a wedding that is full of energy and a great party, but 80 just seems so small and boring.
I DO realize this day is about marrying my amazing man….yet, it is still hard to not be a little focused on aspects of the wedding such as the guest list and what not. I’m afraid we have spent so much money for having such a small guest list. In addition, we chose to only have a Maid of Honor and a Best Man…due to losing a lot of friendships the past few years and really bad issues with siblings 🙁 I will only be having around 4-5 people in my room on the wedding morning to get ready, and it hurts a little to not have those strong friendships to rely on during such an important day, but I’m not the type to just go make friends for the sake of one day….
This is SO difficult to let go of, but I know someday I will look back and realize how ridiculous it is that I am so stressed about these things that I am losing sleep/barely eating. I am also just very anxious for the day to arrive due to so many little things that need to get done from now till then.
Please please please tell me your thoughts/advice and let me know if you had a wedding with 80 people or went to one and how was it???
Post # 3
@Alyssabree: Umm…..my wedding will be between 50 and 75 people.
Your day will be as good or as bad as you make it. The number of people attending shouldn’t make a dent in your mood. Quit counting guests and start counting blessings–that’s the best cure!
Post # 4
Oh, and the space I’m renting holds 250. I’m thinking of renting a bounce house as a result.
Enjoy the fact that the people you are with are people who truly care about you and have fun with them!
Post # 5
@Alyssabree: Small weddings are great! You get to spend more one on one time with each guest. Are you just upset because you invited a lot of guests and not so many RSVPed yes? I would be upset about THAT, but not having a small wedding.
Post # 6
We chartered a boat that holds up to 150 seated/300 standing, and had 80 guests. No one felt like it was boring or too empty, and everyone had a wonderful time.
Post # 7
I only had a Maid/Matron of Honor and best man. I had 130 people but only 45 or so danced and I had a great time…
Post # 8
We had 45 people and it was great! I loved having a gathering where I could sit and chat with every person I the room. If I were to do it again, I’d go even smaller.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
First of all, my aunt was married a few years and had about 60 people at her wedding. Everyone had a BLAST and danced the whole night. It was a wild party and to this day one of the most memorable weddings I have ever been to!
Second of all, we booked a space that can hold up to 300, we invited 220 and had a final guest count of 125! At first we thought the room was going to look awful and empty, but all the extra space meant that there was a bigger dance floor for everyone to party on! 😀
And personally, I had a ton of people in the room getting ready with me. It was super overwhelming and at one point I kicked everyone in the adjoining room so I could have some quiet time with my mom and two maids of honor. There is something to be said for small and intimate love on one of the biggest days of your life.
Chin up, you are going to have a FABULOUS wedding!
Post # 10
We had 80 exactly. It was perfect
Post # 11
Yeah, we had quite a few declined RSVPs and some for just odd reasons, since we actually saw the people and they explained in person. It’s just hurtful. I’m the type who likes space to be filled “equally,” I know it sounds silly, but with so much space, I am trying to make it more cozy and filled in. Also, we just spent a little more money because we were thinking it would be a bigger guest list (more on a photobooth for example, but now I feel like it’ll barely be used due to having less people)
Our wedding planner suggested having 72 inch tables (to fill the space more) with 10 people at each , so that would be 4 on each side of the dance floor OR to have 60 inch with 6-8 people at each, which would be around 5 on each side, which would also fill space, just differently. ANY SUGGESTIONS??? Thank you so much ladies!
Here are a few photos of the reception room and ceremony site….
Post # 12
we had 87, but it felt to me that we had more. we barely had time to spend 5 minutes with each guest to just talk and ask them how they were. you’re at a *very* good number!
Post # 13
I think you need to look at your wedding guests in terms of quality instead of quantity.
Sure, there are people who have hundreds of people at their wedding. But would they consider all of those people to be truly important in their lives? Would those people be there for them during times that aren’t so great? Do they ever call those people up to see how their day was?
And people who had lots of bridesmaids and groomsman, will they look back at their wedding pictures in 5, 10, 15+ years and still be friends with those people?
My guess is probably not.
I’d rather have 80 very close family and friends and 2 MOH/BM than 500 people who will forget I exist when they leave my wedding….
Post # 14
We’re inviting just 50! 😉
Post # 15
Your wedding will be fantastic! 80 sounds like a great number! We’re actually having a huge wedding, and I’m really fearful that I won’t have time to dance and actually enjoy the day b/c I’ll be making the rounds the whole time making sure to say “hello” and “thank you” to all the guests. I’m especially nervous b/c I don’t know all of my guest list (some of Fi’s extended family or family friends). EVERY wedding has at least something the bride/groom worry about…I think it’s just how it is. Just remember, celebrate happily and graciously with the people who ARE they….they WANT to be a part of your day and see you happy and marry the love of your life!
Post # 16
We had less yes RSVP’s than we expected about a month before our wedding. These included family and close friends who had told us word of mouth previously that they wanted to be invited. Surprisingly, many ended up sending back the RSVP saying no.
My husband and I ended up inviting friends that we work with and used to work with. I was suprised that many said yes. We probably got about 15-20 additional guests doing that. We had a minimum of 180 guests that we needed to meet for our venue otherwise we would still have to pay for that amount.
Do you have a guest minimum requirement for your venue? Is there a way you can invite some last minute people if you do?
Either way, you will have a wonderful day! I agree with PPs less people in your room getting ready is better! I had too many people and at times felt overwhelmed and stressed while trying to prepare.