- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
Hi Bees, this is my 1st post – please be gentle! 🙂
I have been an avid follower of the Weddingbee forum since I got engaged 18 months ago but never joined up… until now 🙂
I am now needing the support and honest opinions that I often see on here to help me with my worries. I hope you beautiful bees can help.
right… where do I start??
me and the hubby to be went WR shopping and I thought I wanted a plain band to go with my solitaire ER. (I have ALWAYS thought I would have a plain band!) my ER is a 3mm platinum band with a .75 brilliance cut diamond. well, when we got to the shop the 3mm WR just looked nonexistent under my stone and anything thicker was toooo thick in my opinion. I was crushed!!!! the ring I had pictured on that finger since I was a little girl didnt look right! I didnt know what to do – I tried allsorts on – patterned, textured, shaped… they were nice but nothing looked right. finally, out of total desperation, I tried a pretty half eternity on…. OH.MY.GOD. fell in love instantly!!! but then had real issues coming to terms with not having a ‘traditional’ (I hate that word!) wedding ring. but, every ring I tried on (again) after the eternity was nothing in comparison. so that was that. decision made!
I had taken piccys to send to my mum (she lives overseas) to keep her in the loop but to also have a little bit of bridal bonding with her and trying to involve her as much as possible. (MASSIVE fight last year, me, sis & mum all fell out big time – mum missed out ALOT on sis’ wedding.) I emailed her the pic below whilst I was chatting on the phone to her and said something along the lines of “bleugh – plain ring makes my finger look fat and my stone look puny… OMG in love with the sparkles though, what a beautiful pairing with my ER – think I’m a closet magpie!!”
this is where my mum upset me – I had CLEARLY said which one I liked and was likely to get. she then tells me that the eternity ring is extravagant and too ‘blingy’ and completely impractical. she said that I need to think about when I have kids and have to change pooey nappies and that the stones are going to scratch and catch on everything. also that “most women take their ER off and if you do that then that ring doesn’t look like a WR, and what are you going to do when you want an eternity ring later on?!”.
1stly – impractical – she has completely overlooked the fact I’m going for a 1/2 eternity so I don’t have stones being worn on the palm side of the ring. Pfffft.
2ndly – how on EARTH does she think I’m going to change nappies?!? by using my rings instead of a baby wipe?! I appreciate they will get dirty but my ER is an open gallery – I know how to clean a ring! grrrr.
3rdly – my ER is set AT LEAST a 1/4 inch off my finger so if anything is gonna catch its gonna be that – not my CHANNEL set stones!!! RAHHHHH!
and lastly – who cares if it doesn’t look like a wedding ring!? also – I will already own an eternity ring – if I want another ring to mark a birth or anniversary… I might go all crazy untraditional and get a plain one!! WHOAAAAA!!!
*SIGH. immature rant over – sorry.
it really is hard work trying to be calm when she is like this. she has now made me completely question the choice I made and has made me think maybe I am being too over the top by having an eternity ring as a WR. I know I love that ring – just looking at it makes me smile, but when someone criticizes it that harshly it is REALLY hard to ignore!!
from the boards on here I can see that there are LOADS of you lovely ladies that have gone down the same ring pairing road as I have. just needed to get my frustrations out and for someone – anyone – to please tell me that im not being a OTT princess by wanting an eternity ring. 🙁