(Closed) REALLY hard to love something when its criticized…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I love your choice.  She doesn’t have to wear it so she doesn’t get a say in what it looks like.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@weird_bunny:  I have a diamond wedding band too, half eternity. Have no issues. You are wearing the ring not your mum. I’d say: “thanks for your thoughts mom”, say no more and then get what I liked. I like the diamond band with your engagment ring too.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@weird_bunny The decision is yours and yours alone, YOU will be looking at and wearing this for awhile.  No one else.  Get the ring you love and don’t let your mom or anyone else’s opinion decide for you.

By The Way, FWIW eternity band is gorgeous.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@weird_bunny:  I like the way the channel one looks better with your e-ring. The simpler one doesn’t look bad, but it is significantly larger than the other one. And rest assured, the ring won’t get snagged on nappies. Haha I’ve never heard that word before when referring to diapers. I’m gonna use that from now on. Nappies!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@weird_bunny:  I think the half eternity looks 1000 times better with your ring. I can totally appreciate a plain band wedding ring, but I think in this case the diamond one looks better. I think your mom is being a traditionalist, which is not a bad thing, but you shouldn’t feel like you have to conform to her opinion, especially in regards to something that will be on your hand.

You could always get a ring holder necklace to use while changing diapers or other dirty work, and then slip your ring(s) back on after you wash your hands. It sounds like she is exagerating a bit about how dirty your hands will get, like the people on an infomercial (I’m not sure if you have comical exaggerated info-mercials over there like we do here that try to make simple tasks seem like the most complicated and distressing tasks ever). Then again, I have never changed a diaper!

And you are right: I don’t see how a channel set half-eternity band would be snagging on everything.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I love the eternity band on you and I think it looks like a wedding ring. I’ve chosen a half eternity channel set ring as my wedding ring and I have a solitaire on a plain band like you do (except mine is square not RB). I love the way the plain band looks against the sparkle of the eternity tbh. Choose what you like because it’s you that has to wear it. Your mum is just looking out for you in terms of the practical aspects of child care. Channel sets are very unassuming and easy to wear on a daily basis, Ive never had my channel set RHR catch on anything because there are no prongs. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I normally lean toward plain bands, but I really like the half-eternity if it’s between the two photos you posted. In the US your set would probably still qualify as understated, to be honest. They look classy and elegant together. Don’t let her get you down! It’s your wedding band, and you need to love it. Case closed. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@weird_bunny:  I love what you picked but I have an eternity band as well so I’m a bit biased πŸ™‚ Your ring sis beautiful too!

I also have a mom like yours.  Oh boy, was she just a peach during wedding planning. If i may off a bit of unsolicited advice: do what you and your fiancé want and as hard as it is, don’t give her the opportunity to give her opinion on things. She’s not going to change and the only thing you can do is change the way you interact with her. 

Happy planning!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2003

@weird_bunny:  I absolutely love the eternity band!!  Your mom will get over it. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

the band you want reminds me a little of mine!  get what YOU want!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh lord.  I’m sorry your  mom responsed in such a b*tchy way.  I think the half-eternity is GORGEOUS with your e-ring.  The plain band unfortunately doesn’t look right at all.  I guess I’m confused as to why you both consider something with bling to not look like a wedding band? If you wear it alone it will still look like a wedding band!  And when you have kids? You wash your d*mn hands, it’s not that hard πŸ™‚ As hard as it is to brush off what she said, please, don’t let it get in the way of your love for your ring!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@weird_bunny:  Just saw your update that she’ll be in town judging your wedding dress too.  STAY STRONG! Brush off any evil comments she makes, if you love your dress.  I know its hard to not let negative opinions get to you, but it just sounds like she’s being spiteful

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@weird_bunny:  i love the eternity band with your ring.  it looks amazing together.

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