Post # 1
I’m a regular poster posting under a different name out of insecurity…
I had a baby not too long ago. I know it’s unrealistic to “bounce right back” to my pre-baby size, shape, etc. but I really really hate my post-baby body. I can’t fit into my old clothes at all – my pants won’t go over my hips, my shirts won’t button over my boobs and my feet are .5/1 size bigger than they were before.
I work a professional job where I have to dress nice, suits, heels, etc. I hate to think that I’d have to replace my entire wardrobe that I’ve spent good money on. I have bought a few items out of necessity. I have a collection of beautiful designer shoes that I’ll never wear again. I still can’t even wear my wedding ring. And I’m only 10 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight.
But the main issue is that I’m so depressed over my body and being away from my baby all day at the office that I really don’t know what to do with myself some days. I try to exercise but when I get home to my baby after a full day at work I don’t want to leave him again. And I can’t really cut calories because I’ve had some major breastfeeding issues and anytime I don’t eat enough my breastmilk supply tanks.
Any moms that can give me some advice on how to get my body confidence back? How did you lose the baby weight? How long did it take?
Post # 3
I’m not a mom yet, but I thought this might be helpful. I read this blog (http://www.mamalaughlin.com) and she has two kids. She has posted about how hard it was for her to lose weight while breastfeeding, and how she ultimately ended up losing. Perhaps you can get some tips and inspiration from her!
Hang in there! I know how hard it is to have to buy new work clothes.
Post # 4
Oh I think we all feel that way at first. Your body will come back especially if you are breast feeding. I don’t know where you live, but even taking the baby with you for a walk can get you moving and will be good for him too?
Post # 5
I certainally wouldn’t start thinking your aren’t going to fit into your old clothes just yet, it will take awhile, even a year or more for your body to return to normal, you don’t need to be so hard on yourself.
Post # 6
thank you! 🙂
it is finally starting to get nice out here and I can’t wait to go outside with the baby – I did over the weekend and have plans to go out again after work today.
Post # 7
Hi! How far along are you?
I remember at some point in the first few months, trying to put on sweat pants, and they didn’t fit. I freaked out!! I felt like I had lost a bunch of weight, yet they wouldn’t get up over my darn hips and butt. I thought my body was permanently changed. Honestly, I was not happy.
And then, I lost it all. And more. I Boyfriend or Best Friend exclusively for 4 months and my son was fully weened around 7 months (when I returned to work). I exercised and ate well, but honestly, losing the weight was easy. I got rid of those extra pounds I couldn’t lose prior to pregnancy. Give it time, keep doing the right things….my problem now is my suits are too big and when I returned to work they didn’t fit and I have also been hesitant to buy new stuff thinking the weight is surely going to come back. I wish I knew that it wasn’t game over in the first few months so I could have not been so worried about it!
Post # 8
@Sunchick19: that’s good to know 🙂 my baby isn’t even 3 months old yet. I’ve had to supplement here and there because my breastmilk isn’t enough but I’m feeding pumping 6 times every 24 hours.
Post # 9
@SadB: that is still SO early. At 3 months I was still scared to try my regular clothes on because the sweat pants not going on was still tramautizing 🙂
I would say the average time it took my group of mom-friends was 4-6 months, and most closer to 6 months. I think BFing is a part of it for sure, but it is also your body taking some time to readjust. AND some people also can’t lose the last 5 pounts until after they stop BFing – I have heard your body might hold onto that extra padding to support the BFing, and the last bit comes off when you are through. And in fact for me, the last bit of weight happened while I was weaning my son.
Go easy on yourself:) I know it is hard, but hang in there!! Don’t give up
Post # 10
Do you run? I have a friend whose husband is an avid runner, and so he wakes up earlier in the morning and takes the baby (well, she’s almost 2 now) for a run in one of those 3 wheeled stroller like this (found on Amazon). Now that she is a talker, he will play games with her while he jogs/runs to also “test” her while they are out (what animal do you see? how many cars are in that driveway? what color is that house? etc)
Post # 11
@MrsSl82be: unfortunately I live in the city and have no storage at all for a bigger stroller. I got the smallest one I could find and it barely fits in our tiny cars. It just started to get nice outside, nice enough to bring a small baby out, so I did get to take him on a long walk tonight.
Thanks everyone for your kind words and advice 🙂
Post # 12
I remember reading all the posts on here from women who lost all the baby weight and were back in regular clothes 2-3 weeks post baby, and I remember just crying on the floor feeling like a huge cow because 2 months had gone by and I was still 15 pounds over my pre pregnancy weight and had a muffin top and everything was tight.
It took me five months to get back to my pre pregnancy weight but my body has changed some. My stomach is actually flatter than pre pregnancy (weird) and my sides are tighter, but my butt and thighs got bigger and I’m still working on those. Going back to work was really helpful as far losing the remaining weight.
You’ll get there, don’t worry! I would imagine in another month or so you’ll probably drop another 5+ pounds and be back comfortably in your old clothes.
Post # 13
Here’s a good website :
I’m sorry you are having issues. Know that most women do. It’s such a change. I went through the same thing as you body wise ( minus the shoes) but it took me about 9 months to fit into my old clothes again. It’s normal to not bounce right back. Give yourself time.
As for not spedning time with your baby, I’m sorry. It must be very hard, but I heard it does get easier. Hang in there!!!
Post # 14
I think it is so hard to hear from people who “bounce back.” I felt the same way and I am sure I will feel it again after #2. It was also really hard for me to hear the oh so common “you’ll bounce right back since your breastfeeding!” In all honesty, every woman is different and our bodies are not all the same. And what if you’re not breastfeeding, are you screwed and doomed to keep the baby weight? Some woman just aren’t able to. I just find that comment hurtful.
The way I view it: it took 10 months to put on the weight. It is going to take around the same time frame to lose it.
Post # 15
I don’t have kids, but I find is so hard and ridiculous to see these celebrities every where that have “bounced back” literally 2 weeks after having a baby.
When I saw this picture of Jennifer Garner yesturday I found it so refeshing. She looks like she just had a baby.. because she did! I agree with PP.. it took you a long time to put it on, and might take you even longer to take off because now you are even busier than before. With only 10 lbs left you I’m sure it won’t be long before you are feeling good again.
Post # 16
I could have written this post myself. I can’t tell you how much I feel the same as you! My son will be 8 months old this week and I can’t believe how STILL unhappy I am with my body. I gained 34 lbs during my pregnancy, lost 18 in that first 6 weeks, and have plateaued ever since. I am still breastfeeding and always thought that, along with healthy eating and exercise, bfing would take the rest of the weight and then some off in no time. but, i guess i’m one of those women whose body holds on to the extra lbs…I work full time also and its SO HARD to find the time and energy to exercise after work and on the weekends. after being away from my baby all day, all i want to do is spend time with him, not driving to and from the gym or running around my neighborhood (which isn’t pedestrian friendly either). Since I’m nursing, my appetite is larger to account for those extra calories, and it’s so hard to not to endulge on crap when my husband does most of the grocery shopping but eats like a college guy and never gains a lb and i have such little self control. sigh.
All my clothes are too small, or just fit differently, so i was forced to spend money on new work clothes that i hopefully won’t wear for much longer. my shoes also grew a size so i have a closet full of shoes that don’t fit. it’s so daunting to try to look like my normal self at work without spending a bunch of money on new clothes that i don’t even really want…
sorry i can’t offer any advice…just wanted to say you’re not alone.