(Closed) Really hurt about bridal shower and bridesmaids

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8878 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Don’t have much advice but I would feel the exact same if I were in your situation. It really sucks when things like this happens. I hope things turn around and you have an amazing shower!

Post # 4
2873 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Misswa2011:  it sucks when people cancel things – its so disappointing

but, life gets in the way sometimes and people have4 to change plans. you just need to enjoy it with the people who can make it. i hope its fun anyway =(

Post # 5
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Many people find bridal showers and baby shower quite boring. It’s no fun to sit around while the bride to be opens presents you bought her. Most people will still send a gift if they don’t attend the shower, and if your Bridesmaid or Best Man can’t make it, then your Bridesmaid or Best Man can’t make it and you should try to be understanding. 

Maybe she hasn’t RSVP’d because she just assumed it was a given that she would be there? Or maybe she hasn’t found out yet that she can attend, you won’t know unless you talk to her.

Bridal showers are not all they are cracked up to be, try to not expect life to resemble movies and you will be less disappointed when it doesn’t.

Post # 6
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m not sure if this is the case, but I was told the mom/MIL weren’t supposed to throw or help with the shower. Maybe this is the case? I know mine did a little bit–mainly because I had a couple different ones and I don’t think the hosts knew who to invite, etc. without them.

I’m a lot like you; my BMs don’t really have to do anything but show up to the wedding. I was anxious about my shower(s) and was beyond humbled and surprised for the excitement towards the wedding on that day. I wouldn’t stress about it beforehand, and just enjoy your special time with the people who are able to make it. (My Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t able to attend mine, but at the end of the day life happens and I was so humbled by those who could) I hope you have a wonderful time!

Post # 7
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you might be acting a little passive aggressive. I totally understand: you don’t want to be a bother to people. And more than that, you know you deserve to have people make a fuss over you without having to ask (you really do!).

Unfortunately, people tend to be a little self-absorbed and forgetful. You really need to make your expectations, your wants, your desires known. If you are the first of these girls to get married, they might not really understand what is expected.


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