- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2020
Hi Hive…I had a rough night last night, and just need some positive words (other than from my Fiance, he’s been doing great in making me feel better…it’s just different from girls and guys, you know?).
So, my family and I don’t get along. My family is a little cult-ish, and I’m not trying to make light of that word or exaggerate. They hate Fiance, don’t want to get to know him, think I need to be out of the relationship STAT, etc. The thing is, they have no idea what our relationship is like because they have never bothered to ask, and everytime I bring him up in conversation, I don’t get a response, and if I do, it’s always a negative one.
My mother and I hadn’t spoken in months when we finally started speaking on Saturday about my school troubles (that’s a different post). I called her last night to wish her a happy Thanksgiving because my brothers are there with her, and I’m not. So we were having an okay conversation, but my mom has a real knack for saying the nastiest things with a very sweet voice, and turning things around onto me.
Anyway, to make a long story short, she thinks I’m making the biggest mistake of my life (okay, I got that, thanks for the input on a relationship you know nothing about) and that if I can hold on for 10 years, I better not have kids because a divorce is harder with kids (okay, again thanks for the input). She then went on to tell me that her wedding was “really classy, in a country club, with really expensive things” because she had my father had “more money than they knew what to do with.” (my parents have been divorced for practically my entire life – I’m 20, they divorced when I was 4 – and had a horrible divorce)
I guess what I’m so upset about is a) the fact that NONE of my family will come to my wedding because they don’t approve and b) that my mother thinks that because we don’t have much money we won’t have a beautiful wedding.
Anyone else deal with anything similar to this? My feelings are so hurt