(Closed) Really involved invite wording question:

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

Together with their families

Post # 4
1776 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yeah, I would also go with the “Together with their families.”

I am including both sets of parents and my deceased father, so it will be worded like this: 

With joyful hearts

Mr. and Mrs. Blahblahblah

and the late Mr. Blah

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter



son of Mr. and Mrs. Blahblah


However, my parents are paying for more than half of the wedding, and my fiance’s parents are hosting the rehersal dinner and contributing to (hopefully hosting) the bar tab.  Since my parents are paying for most of the wedding, I thought it was important to acknowledge them on the card.  And I didn’t want to leave my FIL’s out, so I included them as well.

Post # 4
433 posts
Helper bee

Stepfather & Mom

invite you to the wedding of




son of His Dad & Mom


If your dad would be offended by not being on there I’d worry about a different wording but if he’s not even coming he really doesn’t need to be mentioned. And saying “son of” will make it clear that they aren’t inviting/paying.


ETA I didn’t see that you two were paying for most of it. In that case I’d go the “together with their families You and Him invite” route if you feel better about it. If you mom has a problem with that ask her what her solution would be and let her see how tricky she’s makign it.

Post # 5
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree together with their families, and risk the argument with mom.  This way everybody is included.  At the end of the day, it is your wedding, so word the invite how you and your FH want.  I like the included feel regardless of who contributes. Here’s what we did:

OTB and OTB’s FH

invite you blah, blah, blah

along with their parents Mr and Mrs OTB’s Parents

Ms. FH’s Mom (even though she’s remarried, we did not include her husband, as he played minimal role in my husbands life.)

Mr FH’s Dad


Post # 7
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

“Together with their families” is probably safest. Looks like, with your situation, *someone* is going to be angry no matter what. Just remember that you can’t possibly please them all, so do what sounds good to you and whoever is mad will get over it.

In my situation, I just used “tradition” as a defense for everything. If people couldn’t agree, I went old school because I figured that way either they couldn’t argue, or they could and I could say, “well, nothing I could do about it!”

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