(Closed) Really irritated & feeling alone.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Whether or not a bachelors degree is useful depends on the degree. What do you want to go back to school for?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I’m sorry you’re going through this – it’s tough when you’ve not got anyone nearby you can share things with or vent to.

I wonder if your hubby might be onto something though with the part time study, although maybe it’s not ideal, it would mean that you’d get your degree without financially straining yourselves, and that would actually put you in a more secure position and a better position for when you do decide to try for children.

A year extra isn’t all that long, it’ll whiz by once you’ve got deadlines and study to focus on. I totally think you should get your degree – I’m marrying an Academic, Higher Education is an important thing in our household – but finances and Higher Education are tricky to balance.

Some institutions over here offer bursaries, and also financial aid to students depending on their circumstances, but if you’re married and have an income then you may not qualify. The issues we’ve had is that the scholarships that have been offered to my FH have required full time study, so finding part time work for him to fit around his studying, and making ends meet whilst he gets his PhD is really hard. Part time would have been better, but he got a fee-waiver, so he’s studying for free, which is saving us the cost of fees and a lot of debt in the long run.

But I’m in the position your Husband is in, in that I’m the one bringing in the single-income to support us. And it’s hard work, and really quite stressful. I wouldn’t stop my FH studying for the world, but I can sympathise with your Husband. If there’s a way that will put less strain on you as a couple financially, I think it’s definitely an option to explore – it’ll ease the stress on both of you for the length of your degree!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@michiru4ever:  I agree with this.

I want to go back to school badly, for accounting, but now matter what way I spin it, it just isn’t worth it right now.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Cinderella24:  a BA in Psych will not get you a job beyond retail. For Psych, you need at least a Masters, but more often they require a PhD. You might need to think about something else.

What classes have you taken?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am so sorry your husband is not being supportive in this. {{hugs}}

Fiance and I decided that for us my going back to school to finish my degree makes no sense. Yes I only need two classes but that would cost us $$$. I want to be a stay at home mom/wife. That really is my life’s goal. If I do work I will go back to doing what I have done all along and don’t need a degree for it. I also have health issues so me incurring debt to finish a degree I will never use is pointless. Instead we took that money and paid for a terrific life insurance policy on him lol. That way if he should be killed in the line of duty the kids and I are covered.

Your situation sounds different though. You could use your degree at some point. Do you forsee yourself working after the kiddos are raised? Just realize a degree does not = a job. My friend has her master’s raised her kids and tried to rejoin the workforce 25 yearr later and it isnt going well. No one wants to hire someone with no experience. : (

It really isnt a cut and dried issue because there are so many variables. This may be why he is waffling so much. Communication is key. Have you tried telling him what education means to you?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh I see you want a bach of pysch degree. I know 30 some people with one. They are pretty useless so I agree with Darling Husband. Sorry! they qualify you to work retail, receptionist, medical records, umm basically as if you have NO education. : (

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@Cinderella24:  I didn’t realise it would be another 4 years – I thought it would be four years in total – one extra year to the total length of an undergraduate degree over here!

I think what you need to do then is sit down and have a calm talk on budgets and options with your Husband. It may be that if you go to school full time, you might not be able to afford to have a baby immediately after you finish anyway, and end up still having to wait!

I hope everything works out for you!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Cinderella24:  If your plan is to get a BS in Psychology, I actually see your husband’s point. It’s a lot for a money for a degree that won’t open many doors. Is there a more marketable degree you are interested in?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Cinderella24:  if you’re planning to go into Psych, a BA alone will do nothing. So if you really wanted the field, it’s not just a bachelor’s degree worth of loans, it’ll be grad school too for a PhD. however, depending on the university you attend, grad school fees can be lowered if you work as a research or teaching assistant for a professor.

Gen eds apply to almost every degree, because they are supplementary. in your case, they would fill the Bachelor’s requirement for gen eds, leaving you more room per semester to take the degree relevant classes.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@strawbs:  100% agree. I have a friend with a Master’s in Psych and she can’t find any work in her field. She’s applied to teach at community colleges, but with no experience, she really can’t do much. PhD’s are pretty much required to go places in Pysch.

Is there any other field you are interested in? There are degrees that are similar in nature to psych, but are much more applicable as far as jobs go. 

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