(Closed) Really? Is choosing a bridesmaid dress that confusing?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That would drive me crazy!  We’re not that far yet, but I’m sorry they’re giving you a hard time.  Yay you for laying out the law!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

#1) I’m with her I’d like to see the brides dress to kind of have a similar style or look. I wouldn’t want to look like her dress but I would want to choose one I thought was complementary to yours. Plus she’s in the bridal party.. why can’t she see your dress???
#2) UGHH I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. I’d pick up the phone and have a chat with her and somewhere in there casually mention the dress situation. Maybe explain why you want the choices picked by that time.
#3) Again with her… if I’m buying a dress for a wedding I want to make sure it fits. I have issues, MAJOR issues buying things offline and having them fit correctly. IDK what the site is but maybe you could try and find a way for her to try it on. OR find a seller that is good with returns if it doesn’t fit right.
#4)Totally uncalled for. I would call her up and say ‘look this is what I’m going for, if you can’t pick something, I’m either 1) picking it myself or 2) you’ll have to step down from the bridal party!

Hope I helped a little!
I’m having my own drama with my BM’s becase 2 of them want to lose drastic weight before the wedding and are trying to delay their order… I’m worried it won’t be in in time.  

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

PS with all of that being said… its your wedding so definitely lay down the law… so I was just playing devil’s advocate so you could see their side of the situation

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I find it crazy that you are being so accommodating (20 different options!!?) and yet, you still get push-back and need to hand-hold your lady friends. It must be so annoying for you! Rest assured that you are being an awesome bride, giving them so much freedom and choice, and following up and helping them out when they don’t understand!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is odd that Bridesmaid or Best Man #1 is asking to see it again. I guess I wouldn’t see any harm sending her another pic just to ease her mind and cool the fire. and like you said none of the dresses you chose are like yours sooo its not like she could be your twin. I would be frustrated with her though. I’m sorry you have to deal with it. As for Bridesmaid or Best Man #3 maybe you could offer to pay for it/reimburse her if the dress doesn’t work out, she needs to get a new one, and she can’t return the one she got? Since you don’t see this as being an issue it could ease her mind a bit without breaking your bank??AAhhh the joys of dealing with bridesmaids! 

P.S. If it makes you feel any better, my Maid/Matron of Honor who offered to throw my bridal shower called me up yesterday and asked when and where the shower was going to be and if my mom needed help!!! ACK l had told my mom not to worry about it since she had volunteered! Thankfully my mom is cool and was said don’t worry it’ll all get done 😀

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

OMG I’d be frustrated. Maybe they just can’t read plain English?

Maybe try e-mailing them again, a short e-mail. Ask them to nicely re-read the other email and say they need to choose a dress THEY like by June 30th.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Having been a bridal consultant turned bride let me just say that it’s really difficult to know what a dress is going to look like and whether it’s flattering based on looking at a photo online of a stick figure model.  unless of course all of your bm’s are the same measurments as the models.  look at it this way, would you buy a wedding dress online without having seen it in person much less being able to see what it looks like on your body?

it’s super nervewracking to trust what you see online to be what you get in person.  have you seen the dresses or even swatches in person?  i gather that they don’t need to match, correct? 

also as a fellow bride, i know how frustrating it can be to get this part done and get everyone to choose without them trying to give their opinions and other options as well.(just experienced this yesterday with Maid/Matron of Honor.)  i suggest looking into seeing if they are able to go see and try on the dresses local to them since they are all over the place.  this might help ease their minds. 

good for you for giving a deadline, stick to it!

 

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I gave my Bridesmaids the option of 5 dresses that they could try on at a popular Bridal Shop that is located all over the Country. That worked well for them and they each liked going to yry them on in the different states they lived in. Do you want to maybe try that? Giving a deadline is the way to go! That was awesome!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I do not understand why bridesmaids fight the bride so much, especially one who is being really accommodating. Shut up and wear what the bride tells you!

Here’s what you do: tell them all to suck it up and buy the dresses YOU want. 

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