(Closed) Really?! Is it even worth replying?? Need opinions…

posted 7 years ago in Music
Post # 3
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t even reply.

Post # 4
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow that was really rude of that guy. Your expectations of him were very reasonable and he was the one who did not act professional. He needs to realize that when a person hires a vendor they are hiring both the person and the service they provide. I think that you made the right choice not going with the guy. Maybe there is a cd of his you can have your DJ play at the wedding?

Post # 5
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Don’t respond.  You were right in not booking him.  I’m sure that saved you a headache with your planning and on your wedding day. 

Post # 6
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t bother replying. You gave him several opportunities and he did blow you off. Very unprofessional of him if it is his “livelihood”. Any other job, you don’t show up, they replace you.

Post # 7
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s not worth responding and you did the right thing. Maybe he really did have an emergency, but one of the people we are working with for our wedding missed a meeting with us due to an emergency and he contacted us first thing in the morning the next day to aplogize and reschedule – something your musician could also have done if your business meant a lot to him.

Post # 8
1550 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

oh my gosh… illness OR injury? does he not remember?

sounds like a flake.

don’t replY!

Post # 9
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitely unprofessional and not worth responding to but why couldn’t you have just said “We went with a DJ instead” and left it at that?

Post # 10
47 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

No response how rude he’s making you feel guilty for being irresponsible. NO NOt accaptable No No reply not worth your time.

Post # 11
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t reply, the photographer that flaked out on me blamed personal injury/sickess…it’s just going to be a vicious cycle of emails saying basically the same thing. He’ll keep using the same excuses.

Post # 12
2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


Do not respond, it will just create more negativity.

Post # 13
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would just respond and say “Thank-you”.  He’s being passive-agressive and it’s really annoying.

Post # 14
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@MademoiselleL: Agreed.

While I am typically inclined to say not to respond as suggested by the PP in this case you might see him on a regular basis should you continue to want to eat at Outback. In order to avoid an awkward situation or exhile from your local steakhouse a simple response might be needed. I wouldn’t go into detail or point fingers, that only opens more doors for defensive response and negativity, which you don’t have time for I’m sure.

Post # 15
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s tempting to want to respond and call out his BS- because, really? He was super unprofessional and clearly trying to cover his ass. I know a bunch of professional musicians and  you know the ones who consider it their livliehoods, and bust their butts to be true working musicians, and those who do it to pass the time because they have a guitar and an amp, and like to play for fun. I have a feeling he’s in the latter catagory.

In order to keep it less awkward when you see him in public I would maybe write a quick note back and say, “Thank you for your response. Sorry to hear about your (conveniently timed) injuries, hope you are recovering well.” Except leave out my parenthetical addition. lol!

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