(Closed) Really late thank you cards

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’d start sending them out now – you could save your older Chinese relatives/anyone who would consider the 100 days customary for later though. i’m sorry for your loss 🙁

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m sorry for your loss as well.  If you’ve got them done and are ready to send them, I’d just go ahead and do it except for older Chinese relatives that might be concerned about that custom.  Even then, I’m surprised because you’re sending something that in theory was done long before he passed away.  You could get a second opinion from another older Chinese relative or just defer to mom, if that’s her wish.

Post # 5
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

I agree, go ahead and start sending them now. People will understand considering the circumstances. I am so sorry to hear of your dad’s death hun.

Post # 6
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6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I am sorry for your loss.

Better late than never.  I am assuming you are close enough with your wedding guests that they know about your loss.  If I had been a guest at your wedding, I would more than understand when I received a late thank you note, especially considering the reasons why.  It’s the thought that counts, and you are making an effort to show how much you appreciated your guests celebrating  your day with you.  I think it’s never to late to say/hear “thank you”. 

Interesting about the Chinese custom.  Like the PPs said, maybe you should honor your older Chinese in-laws and wait the appropriate amount of time. 

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