(Closed) REALLY mad at FI, trying not to overreact….

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3761 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

AHHHHHHHH!!!! I will help you scream!  Don’t scream at your Fiance obviously but this is freak out worthy.  I would get on the ball asap and maybe be there in person when your Fiance talks to “Sam”.  Sometimes guys level of “taking care of it” and “talking about it” are very different than how the female counterpart would handle it. 

Have fun at your wedding in 9 days!  Now there is something to scream about!! YEAAA!!!!

Post # 4
10846 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh that’s is so not cool. Especially since he told you he HAD done it. If I were you, I would take matters into my own hands, call this guy, explain that you had thought he and Fiance had talked but just learned they hadn’t, and so sorry for the last minute but would he mind…. Your Fiance put you in an awkward and stressful spot, I would be mad too!!! However at this point, just do what you can to arrange this friend to DJ, shake it off and keep moving. You don’t have enough time to stew on it. He was a jerk. Guys don’t understand sometimes why things are important to happen NOW. Sigh. 

Post # 5
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow, just wow.  My husband had very few tasks for the wedding for the same reason!  Hopefully you can go level with Sam, and let him know what’s been going on. Sounds like you know he will still do it, but I think for your sanity you should be the one to go talk to him, or be there when your Fiance does.

Ugh, MEN!

Post # 6
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

woah, not cool for you OR for Sam! He probably wants some lead time to prepare for something as big as a wedding…

Post # 7
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

holy cow! 9 days… I would totally freak out. It’s not an impossible situation though so just take it in your own hands. You never know. If his friend says he’s busy other Djs may be willing to negotiate with pricing since your wedding date is so close and they’re still available. 

Post # 8
38 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

WOW…I would scream…And I personally think it is okay for you to make a big deal out of it.  Im not trying to stir the pot or anything…but stuffing your anger, resentment, and hurt feelings away isnt going to make things better.  I think you should sit down with your Fiance and and explain that you asked him to do only a few things for a reason and that it meant a lot to you that he could do one big important thing…and now that he not only did not do it, he lied to you and it all came out only because he was asked by someone else…just think… what if your Maid/Matron of Honor had not said something and it was wedding DAY and he was like, “oops”.  Not cool on your FI’s part.  Im not saying dont get married because of this or anything, but you DO have a right to be upset.  Good luck, girl…..keep us updated

Post # 9
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’d be upset too, wow!  I’d probably at this point call Sam myself and see if there’s any way that he could DJ.  He’s definitely going to need some time to prepare.

Post # 10
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh man, he dropped the ball big time.  My Fiance is like that, he doesn’t mean to blatantly lie, but in order to avoid a disagreement, he’ll tell me what he thinks I want to hear.  But all the while he hasn’t done a thing I asked of him.  I get so frustrated so I can imagine how you feel.  I think its good that you haven’t reacted yet.  You don’t want to freak out on him, but you have a right to discuss what he did wrong.  And hopefully he’ll understand and make an effort not to do it again.  I really hope this friend is still available to DJ for you!

Post # 11
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Oh NO.  I would flip. sh**.  Seriously, not cool!  What exactly what his plan??  Somebody needs to be talking to Sam right now.  As in a month ago, but now will work.  I’m so sorry!!  I’m sure it’s going to be fine, but why would he DO that?!  Sigh.  Men.  You’ll get this figured out, and I’m sure he didn’t mean to cause any stress, but yikes!  On the plus side, you’ll be married in 9 days!! Yippee!!

Post # 12
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yeah screaming at him should be the last of his worries :)… But you srsly must speak up about it. Those arrangements must be made like yesterday. Maybe you should call the DJ guy.

Post # 13
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OHHHHH NO! I would have FLIPPED. THE. F. OUT! When was he going to get around to asking him?  The day of? Your Fiance needs to handle this. Like yesterday.

Post # 14
3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I would lay it down – I’d say, either you call / go over there TO-DAY, or I do it. This has been your one job in the past X months. Let me know if you need an assist. This must be done by tomorrow. And be firm. He won’t want to be embarassed and should get to it and if not, at least you know it’s done if you do it.

Sorry to hear about this! Would these lazy men fiances slack like this at work? no! why do they do this to their future wives? crazy. “happy wife, happy life”

Post # 16
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ooooh I would be steaming, too!! But the good ting is that you are almost sure the friend will do it so let him handle it and stress out now

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