Post # 1
So we are getting married in 9 days. 9 DAYS! And through all of the planning process, his main jobs have been to work on the playlist, give me his opinion when I ask, and thats almost it. Thats what he wanted, he said I was better at all this stuff, and I don’t mind. The only other MAIN job he had was the officiant, who is a friend of ours, and he is also going to be our DJ. ( Not a close friend, more of an acquaintance) So he was supposed to talk to him like 4 months ago, which he said he did, no problem. Then last week sat he was supposed to go over there and confirm a few details, they were watching a big fight, and he said he did no problem.
Last night, we are sitting with my Maid/Matron of Honor and his Bridesmaid or Best Man and going over music plans, and Bridesmaid or Best Man asks how we are going to plan all the music. And I said, “Oh Sam is doing all of this” He asks if Sam knows, to which Fiance replies….
“Ummmm, I haven’t exactly asked him yet. “
I tried not to make a big deal out of it, but seriously. This is the one thing I asked you to handle, and you didn’t. It is now 9 days before the wedding and we have yet to ask this person to be the DJ. I am almost sure he will still do it, but now it seems almost tacky to ask…and I want to scream at Fiance.
Post # 3
AHHHHHHHH!!!! I will help you scream! Don’t scream at your Fiance obviously but this is freak out worthy. I would get on the ball asap and maybe be there in person when your Fiance talks to “Sam”. Sometimes guys level of “taking care of it” and “talking about it” are very different than how the female counterpart would handle it.
Have fun at your wedding in 9 days! Now there is something to scream about!! YEAAA!!!!
Post # 4
Oh that’s is so not cool. Especially since he told you he HAD done it. If I were you, I would take matters into my own hands, call this guy, explain that you had thought he and Fiance had talked but just learned they hadn’t, and so sorry for the last minute but would he mind…. Your Fiance put you in an awkward and stressful spot, I would be mad too!!! However at this point, just do what you can to arrange this friend to DJ, shake it off and keep moving. You don’t have enough time to stew on it. He was a jerk. Guys don’t understand sometimes why things are important to happen NOW. Sigh.
Post # 5
Wow, just wow. My husband had very few tasks for the wedding for the same reason! Hopefully you can go level with Sam, and let him know what’s been going on. Sounds like you know he will still do it, but I think for your sanity you should be the one to go talk to him, or be there when your Fiance does.
Post # 6
woah, not cool for you OR for Sam! He probably wants some lead time to prepare for something as big as a wedding…
Post # 7
holy cow! 9 days… I would totally freak out. It’s not an impossible situation though so just take it in your own hands. You never know. If his friend says he’s busy other Djs may be willing to negotiate with pricing since your wedding date is so close and they’re still available.
Post # 8
WOW…I would scream…And I personally think it is okay for you to make a big deal out of it. Im not trying to stir the pot or anything…but stuffing your anger, resentment, and hurt feelings away isnt going to make things better. I think you should sit down with your Fiance and and explain that you asked him to do only a few things for a reason and that it meant a lot to you that he could do one big important thing…and now that he not only did not do it, he lied to you and it all came out only because he was asked by someone else…just think… what if your Maid/Matron of Honor had not said something and it was wedding DAY and he was like, “oops”. Not cool on your FI’s part. Im not saying dont get married because of this or anything, but you DO have a right to be upset. Good luck, girl…..keep us updated
Post # 9
I’d be upset too, wow! I’d probably at this point call Sam myself and see if there’s any way that he could DJ. He’s definitely going to need some time to prepare.
Post # 10
Oh man, he dropped the ball big time. My Fiance is like that, he doesn’t mean to blatantly lie, but in order to avoid a disagreement, he’ll tell me what he thinks I want to hear. But all the while he hasn’t done a thing I asked of him. I get so frustrated so I can imagine how you feel. I think its good that you haven’t reacted yet. You don’t want to freak out on him, but you have a right to discuss what he did wrong. And hopefully he’ll understand and make an effort not to do it again. I really hope this friend is still available to DJ for you!
Post # 11
Oh NO. I would flip. sh**. Seriously, not cool! What exactly what his plan?? Somebody needs to be talking to Sam right now. As in a month ago, but now will work. I’m so sorry!! I’m sure it’s going to be fine, but why would he DO that?! Sigh. Men. You’ll get this figured out, and I’m sure he didn’t mean to cause any stress, but yikes! On the plus side, you’ll be married in 9 days!! Yippee!!
Post # 12
Yeah screaming at him should be the last of his worries :)… But you srsly must speak up about it. Those arrangements must be made like yesterday. Maybe you should call the DJ guy.
Post # 13
OHHHHH NO! I would have FLIPPED. THE. F. OUT! When was he going to get around to asking him? The day of? Your Fiance needs to handle this. Like yesterday.
Post # 14
I would lay it down – I’d say, either you call / go over there TO-DAY, or I do it. This has been your one job in the past X months. Let me know if you need an assist. This must be done by tomorrow. And be firm. He won’t want to be embarassed and should get to it and if not, at least you know it’s done if you do it.
Sorry to hear about this! Would these lazy men fiances slack like this at work? no! why do they do this to their future wives? crazy. “happy wife, happy life”
Post # 15
He swears up and down he is going to handle it TODAY. He knows I am upset, he just keeps telling me to relax and it will be fine, I think he is just trying to keep me calm…but I am still really PI$$ED!
Post # 16
Ooooh I would be steaming, too!! But the good ting is that you are almost sure the friend will do it so let him handle it and stress out now