(Closed) Really need some advice- husband is away on a boys weekend and never called last

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I honestly would let this one go. It was a drunk guy’s night, he probably just forgot.

Yes, it sucks, but you gotta pick your battles and I personally wouldn’t chose to fight this one.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just text him and ask if everything is ok, if he says everything is fine I would just let it go

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would let it go. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Agreed. I’d let it go. If you think you feel up to mentioning it in a non-angry way later on, I might try that. Is this the first time that the situation has come where he has the opportunity to follow or not follow your request for a check-in? If he’s checked in with you before with no problem, he probably just forgot.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Let it go for now.

 

If you want to talk about it when he’s home, you can do it, but do it calmly.

Frame it around, “I was worried about you and wanted to make sure you got back to the hotel safely” rather than “I was worried you were out doing unsavory things.”

As for the anniversary present, I don’t really see what that has to do with him not calling last night.

Don’t look for other things to be angry at him for. It seems like you want to pick a fight.

Take a step back, relax about last night, you can text him today if you want to make sure he’s ok. But don’t bring other issues into this too.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

This has happened to both of us – we ask that we text each other at the end of the night when we are out w/o each other – but I & he have both just forgotten, phone died, etc.

Casually mention something about it when he gets home – but don’t get mad/upset. Like another post said, pick your battles!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would be mad I’m not gonna lie.. but you have to pick your battles.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Chances are if the weekend is all about drinking – he passed out and forgot to call. I’d let it go – it’s not really worth the arguement.

My husband (before he was my husband) was in Cuba playing a show on NYE – I was working at a bar. He called me multiple times when he thought I’d be home but I missed his calls because the bar got shut down 3 hours early and I was home asleep with my phone in the living room.

He was pissed and freaked out – but it was all for nothing, so don’t be too quick to get upset at him.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d totally let this one go. Either he was drunk and forgot or got back really late and probably thought he didn’t want to wake you up. No offense but I don’t think a man should have to check in every night with his wife. Let him have one boys weekend. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Let it go – a grown man shouldn’t HAVE to check in with his wife (especially when he is on a guys weekend).

Plus – if the weekend is really all about drinking – I’m sure he just was drunk, passed out, and forgot about it.  And there is nothing wrong with a married man doing that so long is he is responsible – which you have no reason to believe he wasn’t.

I agree with the PPs that you sound like you’re trying to pick a fight over nothing.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

I totally understand how you are feeling and why you wanted him to call… BUT – that said, I think you should let this one slide.  It’s healthy for a guy to get away with his buddies and I wouldn’t put more weight on it than that.  He needs to feel like he has the freedom to do that, without having to ‘check in’.  

Also – sorry about the anniversary present 🙁  Totally sucks but at least you are getting what you want!  My Darling Husband isn’t so good at presents most of the time while I’m super good at it… so the disparity is obvious.  I’ve come to terms that present buying and surprises will almost never be his strength (at least in the frequency that I want them to be) so as long as I am getting what I need (and make that known to him) it’s a compromise I can live with.

Hang in there – I’m sure you’ll hear from him soon!!  (Don’t give him a hard time about not calling – just tell him you were worried about him and leave it at that.)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree let it go; it’s very minor in the grand scheme of things; hubby has to leave me every 90 days and I know he sometimes goes out with friends in another country, but I trust him he trusts me, I hang out with my girlfriends while he’s away; but we always have a lot of trust in each other; would have never survived our long distance relationship if we didnt; there are going to be even tougher even heavier issues in the future so just pick your battles

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