(Closed) Really need someone to talk to…. sorry it's long.

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What country are you in? Which airline did you take? It might be easier to give you practical advice if you give us more specifics.

Post # 4
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1330 posts
Bumble bee

Just breathe-he will definteily forgive you-you guys have been together years, this is a lot of stress to go through and don’t worry- they still might find your luggage. Go run a bath, jump in, relax, try to calm down, and just apologize when he gets back.

 

You will get through this and have the power to make lemonade out of lemons… 🙂

Post # 6
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This is a horrible situation. Try not to beat yourself up because even the perfect couple would probably get in an argument when faced with this much stress. As the others have said, all you can do it “breathe and reboot.” Try to relax and come at all this from another angle. I hope you can enjoy your honeymoon! 

Post # 8
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

He doesn’t hate you! It will all be fine, every couple says things in stressful situations which they wish they could take back. When he gets back just give him a really sincere apology and turn the mood of the trip around by being super upbeat about everything.

Honestly, these types of things happen all the time when you travel internationally, and you guys will be fine with or without luggage. It’ll make a great story in a few years. I don’t know where you are but maybe while he is out you can jump online and learn some key words. Hello, please, thank you, one and two. Impress him when he comes back and I honestly believe he will forgive you as soon as he sees you enjoying this amazing trip he planned out for you. 

I hope your bags show up, but make the most of it either way. I would love to be in Europe right now!!

Post # 9
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

where are you????? maybe someone camn help you there..i mean, if you were in my country i would try to give you some directions otr volunteer to help in anyway i could. As for your husband, well, he will understand you were/are under a lot of stress. I would completely flip out in your shoes!! Hang in there!

Post # 11
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5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@meowcat – I can imagine it would be very frustrating. Just relax and make the best of a crappy situation! Try to put a positive spin on it: it will be a story you’ll tell the grandkids someday!

Post # 12
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Try to make the best of it!  Use some money to go shopping for clothes.  Use English to talk and use hand gestures and facial expressions to make yourself understood.  Graci is thank you.  

 

I lost my luggage on my way to France one time, and since I was immediately going to Barcelona I had to leave it…they just delivered it to the hotel where I would eventually end up.  So I had to buy ALL NEW stuff…which was annoying but ended up being kind of fun.  Try to find the positives — you’re in ROME!!!  Eat some pasta!  Drink some wine!  Go sleep for about a million years…and when you wake up things will be better.

Post # 13
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The OP says:   I told him that it was his job to take care of us and the issue because he’s the one who planned this entire trip and that it wasn’t fair to take me to a foreign country where I don’t know anything and expect everyone else to deal with it.

 Really it’s not his FAULT that things have turned out as they have; he could have planned better, but I sincerely doubt he planned for the flights to be delayed or your bags have been lost.  Right now, it’s not HIS job to fix this— it is BOTH OF YOURS. You two can either work together to figure out what to do, or you can spend all of your time and energy fighting each other.

If you decide you want to work together I would first be putting pressure on the airline for a clothing allowance. If his mom works for the airline, she should know someone who can get that for you– it won’t be generous but will at least be enough to get a few modest changes of clothes and some basic toiletries.

Take a few minutes and at least acknowledge the hard work he’s done planning the trip, even if you can’t quite thank him yet. Then tell him you want to pull together as a team and decide what to do next. Make a list of all the problems– lost bags, can’t figure out public transport, can’t speak the language, tired, overwhelmed, etc— then decide what you’re going to do about them.  Maybe he goes to buy an English-Italian dictionary while you go ask the concierge to explain the subway system, then you meet back in the hotel for nap. Building things into lists helps them seem manageable and fix-able.
 

Post # 14
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is an Apple Store at Via Collatina, 858 Rome 06 224 5300.  That could be fun.

There is an H&M somewhere in Rome, where you can get cheap clothes.  Ask the concierge where it is.  If you are nervous about talking to them, bring your computer/phone down with the screen showing H&M, and they will understand.

Post # 15
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Oh I totally understand, it is so much harder to deal with things when you’re exhausted, especially after a ridiculously long flight. The good news is: the people of Rome are SO used to tourists who don’t speak a lick of Italian. Pointing and smiling will get you a really long way, especially with a please and thanks. And more often than not they’ll speak fluent english.  

Everything will be fine with your husband once you apologise. And it sounds like he has planned an incredible trip, you’ll love it. Try to get some rest while he’s out. Smile 

Post # 16
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you both need to drink a bottle of wine while people watching–make love–and get some SLEEP

The situation will look a whoooole lot less dire afterwards.

As far as the clothing part goes—let his mother deal with it, she works for the airline and will have better luck than you can–you’re on your honeymoon and you’re trying to make the best of it

Buy  a big old English/Italian/German Dictionary if you don’t have on–or even load an app on you phone–and just explore. You don’t have to be able to speak the language to have fun–and if it’s a tourist area I’m sure that people speak SOME English, if you ask them they should be able to work with you. 

 

 

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