- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So months ago my FH and i wanted to elope. I agreed then i realised that being my parents only child id get hell for eloping and not allowing them to be at my wedding. So we started planning a wedding as inexpensivly as possible.
Mom is out of state so i tell her our wedding plans via email when we figure out new stuff. So now apparently i have started an all out war with my family. Yesterday emailed her telling her our new ideas for ceremony.
( keep in mind we are not having a religous ceremony at all)
We have not wanted to do unity candle from the begining. We are going a wine box ceremony.
For the ring bearer we are doing something like this
How adorable is this!!??
Flowere girl- we are NOT ALLOWED to throw petal or anything at our venue. Ive told them a 1000 times and they still dont get it. Instead we were going to do something like this
How adorable again??
For a guest book instead of a tradional people sign and then it sits in a damn closet for the rest of your life i want to do a quilt. That way we can actaully use, and when we see it everyday we think of our happy day.
Then for icing on the cake, we get asked, is your officant white or black. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! its 2013. i tell her he is white and shes like oo good! So i tell her we will have black guests at our wedding, and she gets all bitchy. So i proceed to say there are plently of white trash white people who do no good. UGH!!!! I dont understand this stuff! I get that she grew up in a different time frame than me, but seriously its 2013!!!!!!!!
So then grandma asks if i want my mom at the wedding and i saw yes, as long as she can cool her jets. and then i chewed out for being “disrespectful”.
WE ARE PAYING FOR THE WEDDING! Its our ideas. sorry if you dont like it, but dont tell me were throwing a CIRCUS!!!
So then i say im only throwing a wedding cuz i wanted my family to be there, otherwise we would of eloped months ago. I get told ” well you should of”.
Its too late now to cancel our plans and elope. have too much money down that we would loose. But im just at a lose for words right now, and have been crying my eyes out for about an hour now.
Can someone please tell me that looking at my plans im planning a circus and should just drop it, or are they over reacting???
Fiance is at work now and cant talk, so i really need some love!!!!!