Post # 1
I have a question about weddings and to some it may be really obvious but to me, I am baffled.
What happens with people you bring in to do things for your day such as photographers, hairdressers etc, through out the day?
Obviously the hairdresser and make up artist comes in the morning before the wedding, but do they then come to the wedding? I know someone who invited her hairdresser to the actual wedding. Is that the done thing? Is it rude not to invite them? It seems a bit weird to me having someone there through out the day I barely know :S
Obviously the photographer is there all day, so would we set him/her up with some dinner and drinks too for the reception?
Post # 3
@anahappilyeverafter: I invited my hairdresser, but it’s because I am friends with her. You don’t need to invite your makeup artist or your officiant (unless he’s a friend of yours, like mine was!) You provide your vendors with meals, but I wouldn’t provide alcohol. If you are having your wedding catered they usually have cheaper vendor meals.
Post # 4
@Brideonabudgetlauren: If you are providing meals for them do you include them in your numbers for the dinner?
Post # 5
In most cases, I don’t think its standard to invite the hair dresser and MUA to the wedding. For my sister’s wedding, we invited our hair dresser and MUA because her husband was the DJ and she staying with him most of the time.
For my wedding, my hair dresser is one of my BMs so she will obviously be staying for the wedding.
Post # 6
We did not invite the hair/makeup people. I think it’s nice to offer your photographer a meal at least, although ours actually declined and said she would just grab some snacks at cocktail hour. As the previous poster said, some caterers have specific meals for vendors which are cheaper.
Post # 7
@anahappilyeverafter: You have to talk to your caterer to see how they do their numbers.
Post # 8
I’m not inviting any of my vendors to the wedding but will be providing meals to those that will be there during the reception of course. They’ll get a vendor meal, which is less expensive than the guests meal and will not eat at guest tables but will have their own table.
Post # 9
Most vendors who will be present for the majority of your day (photographer, DJ) will usually require a meal in their contract.
Apparently this is a hotly debated topic but I’ve never heard of NOT feeding vendors who are working 6+ hours for you. And even if it weren’t part of the contracts, I’d feed them anyway. People need to eat and I would never expect someone to work that long without a break or food.
I’ve never heard of inviting hair dressers, but if you’re close with them, inviting them to the reception is fine.
Where I live it’s also common practice to invite the priest or officiant plus a guest to the reception.