Really really feeling like an ugly bride

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@jules_1N_seattle:  If this is your wedding picture then i’ll have to point out that you sctually look gorgeous!! Congratulations!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Honey I’m sorry you struggle with this.  I’m not trying to be mean to anyone but those women are not better looking than you. You look beautiful on that photo.  You need to trust that you look exactly like you are supposed to, and not wish for unrealistic things ie you are the height you are.  

 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

you’re the prettiest one in this picture for sure!  You look radiant 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I think all of you are beautiful, and I wish you could see that you are one of a bunch of beautiful, healthy-looking women. I won’t put them down for you, but you should really try and work on your self image because you deserve to love yourself and feel beautiful. But that can only come from inside of you!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Also, whoever those people were – I really hope that if you once considered them friends, you don’t any longer. Makes no sense to say someone deserves to be a bride other than the bride on her wedding day.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Whoever said that is incredibly rude and obviously blind. You are just as beautiful as those women and even more-so in your wedding dress. I’m sorry you are struggling with body image problems and I know that this is hard to believe but you look absolutly beautiful.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you look very pretty.You appear to be at a healthy weight for you height.Don’t be do hard on yourself.I agree with the previous poster,you are just as pretty as your friends.You Definitly stand out in this picture.Enjoy being a newlywed!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your post makes me sad. I know how you feel, and definitely feel like that sometimes especially in pictures of me and my sisters. I hate looking at pictures of myself. 

For what it’s worth, and I hesitate posting this because the issue is deeper than this, your bridesmaids do not overshadow you in your picture. You look like a gorgeous and happy bride.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think we’re all going to tell you that you look beautiful in the picture, because it’s true. I agree with a PP – I am being 100% honest when I say that I personally find you to be more attractive than any of your BMs.

“I just want to lose 1 pounds and have my face redone.”

Now, the problem is, I can tell by the way that you’re talking that your issues are a lot more deep-rooted than us complimenting you would solve, and no matter how many of us tell you that, you’re not going to believe us. I think counseling or therapy may help, if you haven’t tried that already [edit: sorry, I see that you’ve said you are in therapy. that’s good]. We can’t fix your self-esteem issues, no matter how beautiful we think you are!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@jules_1N_seattle:  I’m sorry but it sounds like you had some a-holes at your wedding, which is not a reflection of your actual beauty and worth. I have had this problem my whole life, feeling like an outcast even when I am right in the middle of the group. Social events do not come easy to me, not that I am shy, I just find it hard to feel comfortable and “in”. I had very low views and value of myself for a very very long time, and I know what it is like to look at yourself in the mirror or pictures, or think about your interactions with others throughout the day, and only be able to pick out flaws. I can’t really pinpoint how I over came this as it has been a very long and gradual process (and with my wedding approaching I am having a slight relapse)  but you really have to take the time and make the effort to figure out what it is that you DO like about yourself! I see a happy, beautiful woman in your picture, and I think if you look hard and are really honest with yourself, you will too.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@jules_1N_seattle:  I think that is a GREAT idea. 

I want to let you know I think you look beautiful! Seriously. I know how it feels to look in a mirror and point out all of the negative things. Overhearing something like that would RUIN my day. I can’t believe someone who cares about you would say that (which leads me to believe it wasn’t someone who cares about you). Especially because you are the most gorgeous person in that picture.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jules_1N_seattle:  I have to be honest, when I clicked this thread, I was expecting to see images of or read a story about someone who looked nothing like you. I’m so sorry that you’ve been so hurt that you can’t see how beautiful you are. You are absolutely gorgeous, and I can assure you, I’m not just trying to be nice. You look stunning in your photo. (So I’m sureyou’re   just as beautiful in all the others!) Certainly anything besides plain. 

 

Whoever said your bridesmaid was prettier totally lied and all their actions show they obviously had some malicious intent. You do NOT need people like that in your life!!!

 

As per your suggestion about the vow renewal is perfect!! Find yourself a gorgeous dress and hire a photographer to take some pictures you can cherish. 

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