(Closed) Really sad, My FIL to be…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Are your hearts set on a big wedding?  Why not elope?  I know if you do a JOP wedding you can have like, 10 people there including you and your FH.  That way all of the parents will be able to see the wedding, without any of the fuss.  You can still have/plan a reception for a later date if you want a big shabang!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would say if it mean so much to have him there just elope. If he can’t make it out of the hospital see if you can do something super small with just your parents and maybe siblinings in his fathers room. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with PPs… Once hospice comes into play, your time with him will be short. My Gram started hospice care in August and was gone in October. I’m sorry to be so direct, but the time will fly by.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What about asking him to formally bless your wedding by giving a speech and celebrating at home afterwards? You could have someone take photos, order a special cake and champagne, it could be really nice.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If your wedding date isn’t till October of 2013, I would hold off on the planning for now, your Fiance is going to be too distraught to make any serious decisions about it when he is losing a parent. Planning ahead of time is great if you can do it, but you really don’t need to plan this early especially going through something like this, the two of you and his mom all have enough on your shoulders without trying to make guestlists or visit venues or anything. I’m very sorry for your Fiance and his family, that is so awful =(

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

doing a simple ceremony for his father does not have to take away from a big wedding that you wanted. Even if it’s not a true wedding ceremony it could be as simple as a commitment ceremony and have someone in your family preform it. It’s more of sharring the experiance with his dad then anything.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

So sorry for your loss 🙁

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry for your loss.  At this point don’t even think about the wedding.  Let your fiance take the lead and he will let you know when he’s ready to discuss it.  Just be there for him, and take one day at a time. 

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