Post # 1
FH left this morning without saying goodbye.. No hug, no kiss, no “I love you”.. No be safe getting to work, no have a good day.. NOTHING.. I woke up about 10 minutes after he left to realize he was gone (we work different shifts, I usually ‘wake up’ about 45 minutes after he leaves). I sent him a text to ask him why he left without even a good bye, and in response got an ‘I don’t know’… No ‘I’m sorry I left in a rush’, no ‘I love you’, nothing.. Than after about an hour of waiting for an ‘I love you’ .. I finally texted him I love you.. He responded eventually with “I love you” back.. I know he’s busy at work, but he could have atleast said he was sorry he didn’t say goodbye.. He usually does this when he is mad, but I have no idea what I did to make him mad :(.. What do I do? I don’t like this and it’s making me feel physically ill because I don’t like to think that he could get sick (with his crohns) or hurt at work or something, and I didn’t get to physically tell him I love you and be careful… I don’t know… Am I being stupid?
Post # 3
I don’t think it was anything he did intentionally. I think sometimes men just don’t think. Maybe he was running late, maybe his mind was somewhere else.
Post # 4
Its happened a couple times but not a regular thing.
Post # 5
Try not taking it so serious..i sometimes leave without saying goodbye! When i am running late!!!!
Post # 6
FH hasn’t ever left the house without saying something to me. He usually leaves about an hour before I do, so he tends to wake me up. He doesn’t always say I love you or have a great day, but he does tell me that’s he’s leaving.
I don’t think you’re being stupid for being upset about it if he always does, but I wouldn’t assume that he’s mad with you. Just ask him about it when he gets home.
Post # 7
If I’m still asleep, he let’s me sleep…sometimes he’s too busy getting himself out the door to remember to say something to me…it’s fine, we live together, I know he’s into me…we’ll catch up later!
Post # 8
funny. I think the same thing happened to me this morning. but if it did (I’m too tired to remember) it’s because Fiance had a really hard time sleeping last night and he forgot to. Btu I’m with you I normally expect it every morning. I wouldn’t get too upset over it, sometimes it happens.
Post # 9
I’m like you, that would upset me to no end. Rational or not, lol. So far, my Fiance hasn’t ever left for the day without saying “bye.”
But, sometimes guys do stuff that means something to us but not to them. Try not to be too upset if you can help it. Maybe he had something on his mind, work-wise, and was in a rush. Maybe he didn’t want to disturb your sleep.
Later on, when you see him in person (not while he’s at work) ask him if he’s upset about anything or what his reason for not telling you goodbye was.
But, it really probaby was nothing serious! Honestly, I think all men do stuff we can’t understand at times. Like, for us on Saturday we usually cuddle on the couch together to watch college football. And instead, he sat in the recliner and moved it right in front of the TV instead of sitting next to me. I sort of dropped a little hint that I concentrate better on the game if he’s next to me and he said, “Oh, you just want a foot rub.” Which was true – but WHATEV!
Anyway, I decided to do my nails and watch football at the same time, all alone by my lonesome on the couch. LOL. I didn’t pout too much.
Yesterday (to watch the pro football games) he cuddled with me on the couch and I got plenty of foot rubs. I have no idea what was different. I’m not going to try to figure it out.
They just do what they do, so try not to take it personally.
But, I understand exactly how you feel, if that makes you feel any better.
Post # 10
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I couldn’t vote in your poll, but let me give you another perspective. I leave before my DH every morning and many times he is still sleeping. I feel bad waking him up and like to let him sleep as much as possible so I NEVER wake him up to say goodbye. Also I am usually running late and will miss my train if I run back to the bedroom, wake him up, say goodbye, etc. I would try to let this one slide, maybe he was running late!
Post # 11
If I am sleeping (as in don’t wake up to his alarm at all, he won’t wake me to kiss me or say goodbye. It’s his way of being nice and letting my sleep, I’ve never been upset by it. He always kisses me and says goodbye if I wake up though.
Post # 12
I’d be sad if that happened too, but don’t overdo it on the emotionality – just let him know that you were upset that you didn’t get to say goodbye this morning and to please take that little bit of time in the morning to pop in and kiss you goodbye! It’s probably not even registering on his radar as important, men are dumb that way, but he’ll probably remember more if he knows it’s important to you.
Post # 13
I don’t think he did it purposely, so I wouldn’t let it work you up too much. But I would mention to him that it’s important to you to say goodbye and I love you to him in the morning when he leaves. Maybe he just didn’t think it was a big deal, and hopefully if you tell him then he’ll remember next time. 🙂
Post # 14
My SO never leaves without telling me goodbye and giving me a kiss. I would be pretty upset if he left without waking me up.
Post # 15
Most of the time I’m awake when he leaves, I make his breakfast. BUT there have been a few times when I slept thru the alarm and he’s let me sleep. Your FH may be thinking about work and just forgot. It happens, if it’s stressfull at work I’d cut him some slack.
Post # 16
No, he always says goodbye. Usually, I am kicking him out because he says it 25 times before he gets out the door.