- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So I’ve vented about this Bridesmaid or Best Man before. I’m going to do it again. Something tells me it won’t be the last time. I’ve known said Bridesmaid or Best Man for 10 or 11 years now, and this is just part and parcel of her personality and I’ve always known this, it just seems amplified because it’s my wedding. I don’t expect her to change, I’m just annoyed, I’ll get over it.
Here goes: I sent out an email today saying “Hey ladies, these girls have dresses, here’s some photos, other girls, here’s some places I saw cute dresses, have a peek if you’re at the mall. Here’s what’s going on with me. This is when the rehearsal dinner is, put it on your calendar. xoxo”.
Well like 2 minutes later I get an email back from Bridesmaid or Best Man that says she can’t come to the rehearsal dinner, she has a monthly gig that happens that particular Thursday of every month and basically why didn’t I remember that (ummm because I didn’t know), and she thought the rehearsal was Friday or Saturday. So clearly I panicked. I emailed her back and said obviously it wasn’t going to be Saturday since that was the wedding, and Friday night wasn’t very practical since people were staying in hotels closer to the wedding venue (an hour away), and the rehearsal dinner is closer to the city where everyone lives, so I don’t want people doing the rehearsal dinner, then driving an hour, then staying up to hang out or whatever, and then being exhausted on our wedding day. Not my dream come true. So we ended up with Thursday, would it be possible for her to find someone to fill in for her?
She emails back. No, no one can fill in, it’s her night and she makes a bit of cash off it. Maybe she could set up, rush out to the rehearsal, do it, then rush back downtown to do her gig. Ummm no. She’s bloody singing me down the aisle, I don’t want her rushing! So I email her back, I tell her the rehearsal is part and parcel of the whole wedding/being a bridesmaid deal, and while I know this is her job, I’ll try to accomodate her as best I can, but I can’t have her rushing through the rehearsal to run back out somewhere else. It’s sort of important to our whole wedding day. Jeez louise.
So now I’ve had to send an email out to all our wedding party, parents, etc asking if Wednesday would work for the rehearsal and if there were any problems tell me now or forever hold your peace. I’m just really happy I haven’t actually booked anything yet, I nearly did last week.
Clearly I know my wedding isn’t as important to anyone else as it is to me, but I’m going to lose my mind! Said Bridesmaid or Best Man also is going to miss one, if not both, of my showers AND my bachelorette because she decided that each of those weekends would be a good time to book shows and tours. I get it, it’s your job (she also has another job, so this isn’t her only source of income) but come on. We’ve been friends for ages, I’ve been a really giving and supportive friend who has literally pretty much asked for nothing from you and you can’t give me just a couple days for my wedding?! Really?! Does anyone else feel like weddings are when your friends (especially BMs) show their true colours? This same sort of stuff happened to my sister when she got married. I’m just so frustrated!!!
End of rant. Thank you.