Post # 1
Oh joy. I finally got over being annoyed by my SIL jumping our wedding with her own and then the other day in the car, she comes out with, “We’re going to renew our vows next year. I miss being a bride! Everyone else is getting married, I miss that being us!”
Really? You’ve been married 5 months and had a wedding triple the cost of ours (yet she had to jump ours for “budget reasons”) and you feel the need to do a vow renewal?! Because you openly miss being a princess?!
I totally get vow renewals for major anniversaries or if you couldn’t do the wedding you wanted for a myriad of reasons (shipping out, not in the budget, whoops babies, health issues, etc.). But when you aren’t even a year married and you just miss the attention, that’s just gross. I hope she doesn’t expect her parents to pay for it all over again, because they need to keep what retirement money they have left.
Ugh! Sorry, I just had to rant. She’s constantly rubbing it in that she got married before us (while we’d been engaged and had the wedding booked long before she got engaged) and that her wedding was the bestest evah! So hearing this made me want to jump out of the moving vehicle. And my hubby now wants to beat her to kids (forgetting the fact I’m the one who has to be pregnant and take the career hit).
Post # 3
Wow. I feel for you. Your sister sounds very immature. 🙁
Post # 4
What an idiot. I’d probably end up saying something really bitchy and passive aggressive
Post # 5
You might want to remind her that Heidi Klum and Seal did the same thing. 😉
Post # 6
How old is she?
She sounds very immature….
Post # 7
@Sunfire: I snorted with laughter at this one.
Post # 8
Sounds like she likes the idea of a wedding not a mariage.
Post # 9
Ick. I thought it was strange and obsessive when my SIL said that she wanted to do a renewal every 5 years. She sounds extremely irritating and self absorbed.
Post # 10
I feel you. Sometimes I want to desperately have children and know part of me wants to simply to beat Brother-In-Law and SIL to the draw. I know this isn’t a healthy feeling but that’s how I really do feel sometimes.
thought #2- she sounds like a real joy to be around 😛 God knows what their 50 year anniversary will be like… if they even make it to that! Marriage is about the relationship… certainly not about feeling like a princess all the time.
Post # 11
To be honest it doesn’t bother me if a couple wants to renew their vows every year. Some say the first year of marriage is the most difficult with all the transitions and changes so I think a one year renewal is perfectly acceptable.
HOWEVER! I don’t think vow renewals should be made into another big event. They should be between the husband and wife as something intimate that is shared to reconnect and recommit. Using a vow renewal as a way to gain additional attention, gifts etc is not appropriate in my humble opinion. Think Ramona on RHNY, ick!
Post # 12
I agree with Treejewel on this one. What a couple decides to do is their thing. If someone wants to celebrate their love every year, more power to them. But I think it should be more of an intimate affari, not some big shindig to have all the attention on them, year after year, after year. It sounds desperate, and attention grabby.
Post # 13
My husband and I plan on renewing our vows on our 5th anniversary and then every 5-10 years after that! However, it will just be us two, on our vacation during the time of our anniversary! We want to do it because we want to “renew” our love and thank each other for the previous successful years. My husband loves the idea and feels its a celebration of our years (one block at a time).
On the flip side, we dont want to make a show out of it. We don’t want to invite anyone but our children! (If that) LOL!!
I feel like your friend is looking just to have another wedding, just for the actual wedding! Does she have a good relationship with her husband as far as you know? Was it good when they entered marriage?
Post # 14
I feel like it could be a good idea to renew vows privately every year. I plan on doing so with DH on our anniversary, if anything just to remind us what we initially promised each other. Another wedding? Um no… 😉 Maybe in five or ten years but I couldn’t imagine doing that so soon.
Post # 15
I agree with this. I don’t understand women who had huge weddings and then want huge vow renewals. I know a woman like that; she had a huge wedding the first time she was married. Then, she had another big wedding the second time she was married and now she is having a big vow renewal for her tenth. What she doesn’t realize is that people think she looks like an attention seeking idiot.
Vow renewals are also not appropriate for first anniversaries. Most couples wait until at least the tenth or even fifth to renew vows.
Your sister-in-law should spend that money on therapy to figure out why she needs so much attention.