(Closed) Really? Sitting on My Couch Crying

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@HotPinkFire: Deep breaths. They are jerks for even yelling at you to start. If it’s minor stuff you can always check with the venue, but you don’t have to. This is about you and your soon to be hubby getting married and nothing else. You will get it all done, because that’s what women do. <<hugs>>

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

*hugs* what are they asking to be changed? If it is something you agree with, perhaps the vendors would be amenable to the change if it isn’t too drastic. However, if it is something you do not agree with and your mom and sis are just putting in their 2 cents where it isn’t needed/asked for, the heck with that! You do what you want to do and do what is right.

Hang in there, sister. You and I are both to be married this upcoming weekend. Take a breather with your Fiance and don’t do anything wedding for an hour or so. Have a nice dinner together, candlelight, and relax. You can pick up whatever last minute detail after you’ve eaten and had a chance to reconnect sweetly.

Oh man, let us PLEASE get through this last week, right? ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 5
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wine . you need wine ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Breathe, OK now Breathe again,

Everyone gets stressed around a wedding, including a mom and sister who arent the bride! Everything seems bigger and worse than they really are. 

I do have a suggestion (although you dont need someone else to tell you what to do) but it may help in the end.

I would send an email or call your mom and sister now telling them that “You don’t think those items are important in the grand scheme of things, that you are excited to be married to Fiance and you are glad that they are going to be there. But, also, that you are really stressed and emotional and really need some love and support from them this week. That you want to have good memories of the week before of your sister and mother prepping, and this isnt a good start because you are crying. That you want to start over tomorrow.”

I know its tough. Hugs.

Post # 8
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3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@HotPinkFire:  I’m so sorry!!  Everyone gets so stressed during the planning.  My mom and I got upset with each other too but it all blows over and works out in the end.   Treat yourself to a quiet night and a glass of wine!

Post # 10
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Mrs B to be: glad im not the only one that thinks so ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ooooo that is my biggest pet peeve – people telling me what to do and what I need to do and then not helping, especially when it is something that they should be helping me with to begin with, or if it is something that has nothing to do with them, but they are telling me what to do anyway.

Get off the couch and go do something fun! Then make a list of what YOU need to do, and try to push out of your mind what they yelled at you for.

Post # 14
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hope you’re feeling better!

Maybe just take an hour of two for “you”? It’s so close to your wedding that you’re probably so stressed right now, and there are people around you that aren’t helping at all.

Also, do what @lefeymw: said. I don’t think they’re stressing out just to stress you out, but they want things to be perfect for you.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t really have anything to add except for some (((((hugs)))))). Hope today is better!

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