(Closed) Really starting to despise my mother (kind of long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Gingersnap: I hate to ask this – but could it possibly be menopause? It’s caused my mom to be pretty nutso. She flies off the handle about everything.

Surely it’s not a good excuse, but it could explain it. I can’t believe she said that about your friend 🙁 so sorry. 

I am totally in your boat about trying to please your mom about your wedding – we changed our date basically because of her. 

(((hugs))) I hope this passes!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

lol I dont think she is a nasty bitter person I just think she is going throug a negative phase,

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Gingersnap: Some people go through it in their thirties fyi >.> So it could be totally plausible.

I feel you on the mom flying off the handle thing. I think weddings instantly make mothers take a nosedive off the sanity express. Perhaps it makes them think of how close they are to dying? I would say we all sort of fear our mortality–some more than others.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honey, my mother has been that was since the day I was born.  Father, too, as a matter of fact.  I’m not trying to be harsh but be thankful for when you were close.  Maybe she’s going through something she hasn’t shared with you yet.  You can’t be responsible for other people’s reactions to things and let them make you feel bad.  If she wants to be a party pooper, that’s her deal.  Sorry you’re dealing with that I guess I’m a little hardened to it cuz I’ve dealt with it forever.  I hope it gets better.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Gingersnap: I dont think she can deal with you getting married (the too soon comment kinda triggered me a bit here).

Some mother’s are like that, my sister’s friend’s mom totally did everything in her power to sabotage her friend’s wedding as well as her relations with in laws..all because she felt like her daughter shouldnt be getting married. Period.

There usually isnt reasoning for these cases…Im just glad she isnt that nutty though.

Or it could be a menopause thing. I really hope its menopause and its temporary.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That bites, Ginger.  🙁

I realized a couple years ago that my mom stopped being my mom and started just seeing me as another person… does that make sense?  All of a sudden, she’s complaining about my dad as if I’m her buddy… I’m not sure I like this either!

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