(Closed) Really starting to hate in laws – vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

OMG!!! That’s insane! Just out of curiousity who is paying for the wedding? How can they behave like this? Btw, what nationality are they? I’m sorry you have to go through that. I don’t understand how parents can act like that.. freaking bridezillas and its not even their wedding!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What did they do at their other son’s wedding? Inquiring minds want to know…lol

Honestly, I would tell them that if they want to invite 150 people, then they can pay for those people to eat and drink and what-have-you. I can be pretty assertive/aggressive/mean, though. It’s not right, or fair, of them to unload this on you and refuse to come because THEIR friends aren’t invited. It’s not their damn party.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Aww, I see a very fun and lovely elopement in your future. Plan a darling reception, quietly, to celebrate with your friends. Take the power away. What happens when you have children?

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@kitcat12: Hahaha! Can I like your comment? I couldn’t agree more!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

๐Ÿ™ This is a hard situation…I hope that the Future In-Laws start being a bit reasonable and willing to compromise.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s really terrible. Good luck… I don’t know what I would do. I probably would just have the day I wanted and hope that they come around. Unless, of course, they are paying for it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@winerygirl: Pay for the wedding yourself and have your dream wedding and don’t comprimise, because if you give your Future In-Laws a little bit of your finger, they will take your whole arm.. and you don’t want that.

Why I am giving you this advice is because it is only your day, with the one you love and if they can’t accept how you want your wedding to be, it’s a loss for them, not you!

Be firm and disciplined, have been through this myself, luckily we got it in check. Just make sure, that you guys ínvite and do what you want for your own wedding WITH your own money. They will come around.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

@winerygirl:

Can you run off with the people you want and do a simpler day BEFORE the FIL’s day?  Set up something small, sweet, intimate with your money and get married like the day before?  Wear your gown, get your flowers girl. you should totally do it!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You still have time to cancel the big wedding and plan something small and intimate. I’m worried that if you go through with this wedding you’ll be resentful and you’ll be sad looking bad on your wedding. I’m dealing with that at the moment and it’s no fun. Have the wedding you want!

Your in-laws will eventually get over it, I’m sure.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@winerygirl: yes!!! Do it, Do it!!    You will take back power over your day.  Then they get what they want, but then SO DO YOU and YOUR Fiance.   You can even use the same vendors and likely get a great deal! Have who you want there! 

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