(Closed) Really sticky guest list issue – advice please!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

wow!!!  i can understand why this is a big deal for you… i will defenetly talk to your Fiance and make a decision together … it think the best way to go is to talk to the parents and explained you are in a budget and want to only invite people who are close friends and family, if they complaint then you ask them for monetary help… i know hoe it feels because we are paying for the wedding and trying to go on budget but is not easy when the parents want to invited every single member of the family even if we havent seen them since we were kids…

have a conversation and take a decision… at the end this ur and ur Fiance day and the final decision end on you guys

good luck!!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

IS there anyway you can have family members spread the info by word of mouth?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ask your wedding party to spread the word and help run interference.  That’s the best you can do.  Most people will get it and be respectful, but it’s going to happen (I’ve been there) and you can’t let it bother you or spend your whole reception hoping that people are behaving themselves.  Besides, the friends I have in the entertainment industry get that it comes with the territory, besides, they are there for you and these are your friends and family, not some strangers off the street, so it’s likely not as big a deal as you think it is.  Good luck! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Put their table next to yours and have people close to you make a big deal about not pestering them.

I agree with having the wedding party run interference. If they overhear people whispering about autographs or photos, just have them say something like “the bride was hoping nobody did that since its really tacky.”

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Both my fiance and I work in politics. While we won’t have entertainment people at our wedding, we will have politicians and key administration people (our bosses!) at the wedding. I really haven’t thought about it, but I’m pretty sure that our famous guest won’t take offense and are probably used to it. I do know that my fiance and I asked our photographer not to post any pictures of those guests on his blog or use for publication.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Honestly, I don’t think there’s a tactful way to do so without potentially insulting your guests.

My guess is that if some of your guests are in the entertainment industry, they’re used to it and are probably to some degree comfortable with it.

Don’t worry about it.

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