(Closed) Really stressing out!!! (work related)

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 4
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012


I’m sorry that you’re working in a field that makes you miserable. I know how that goes. i was 80% done with an engineering degree, when I finally could not take it anymore. I was working on entering a field for which I had no passion, found no enjoyment and while the money would’ve been great, there was nothing about it that made me want to get out of bed in the morning.

So, I (quickly) took a good hard look at what I liked doing (working with people and science), and decided to see if teaching could be an option. I took an introduction to education class, fell in love, found a degree program and now i get to teach physics to high schoolers. Had anybody told me I’d be where I am now five years ago, I’d have laughed my head off.

I don’t walk in your shoes everyday, so I can’t really say what you should do. However, I can tell you what I’d do based on what I know:

I’d go to that working interview, put my best face forward, and I’d see if the position was a good fit for me. I’d see if I could get a pay increase to at least compensate for the driving, if only to break even. If the new job was any better than the guy you’re working for now, I’d jump on it.

I know it’s an extra 40 minutes of driving each day, but it might be woth an extra 40 minutes in your car, if it means hours less spent in detesting your job each day. Even if you don’t really love your actual work, a more positive environment might make it more bearable until you find a profession that is a better fit.

In the meantime, keep an eye out for other things, and keep an open mind. Peruse more than Craigslist, and put out feelers with friends and family to see if they know of anybody looking to hire a skilled, versatile worker. If you need to do a total 180, try taking an online or night class in a new topic or field that you see as a possibility. It might open some options to you.

And to keep your sanity, take time for yourself! Concentrate on doing things that you do like doing when you get home. Exercise, sing, play an instrument, read, crochet pot holders…whatever!

You’ll make it through this patch, and I have no doubt that you will come out on the other side happier when you do figure out exactly what is right for you. Best of luck!!


Post # 5
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

In this economy, I would be thankful that you at least have a job. Your boss sounds like a terrible person, though.  So if you can get the new vet tech job with the interview you have tomorrow, I would take it! 

Post # 6
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsNarwhal: If you have the opportunity to leave your current work situation, I would jump on it. Trust me, from experience it does not get better unless your boss decides to quit or retire. I would move on, life is too short! 

Post # 7
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Go to the interview and if you think it will be better, take the job, but keep looking. It’s SO hard to find work that you might not get another opportunity for a while, so take anything that is better than where you’re at now.

I’m sorry your boss is so horrible, I’ve had some pretty bad bosses too but none that did anything illegal.

Post # 10
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MsNarwhal:  Take the new job opportunity if it’s offered to you… It’s still a bit of the same “poison” since you hate the field you’re in but at least it’s a different boss and the benefits sound better!  I’ve had some SUPER crappy jobs in the last 10 years before I started working in the field I went to school for, and oh yeah, did I want to quit!  But at least you’re working and you’ll probably like the new place better! ๐Ÿ™‚  Good luck!

Post # 11
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t like my job either. :-/ If the other job offers more money, better benefits (as you said), etc, TAKE IT! 25 mins is not a bad commute.

Post # 12
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@MsNarwhal: I would recommend taking the new job if they extend an offer. While it may not be ideal, I have worked under some pretty miserable bosses. I know how absolutely depressing it can be to interact with them.

Take the new position, then keep looking. With the current state of the economy, it may be 6 months or more before you find an opportunity elsewhere. It sounds like alleviating the stress particularly associated with your boss might help you feel a little more motivated to go into work everyday.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I hope the new position offers you at least a little respite from your awful boss ๐Ÿ™

Post # 14
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Did you tell her what you were currently making? And ask her to match? I’d push and see if she would.

Do you have health insurance? Figure out how much that is costing you and PTO is definetly worth something. Oh and what about overtime? Also if your boss is altering your time, is the pay any different? Your current situation is awful, you would be better off without working for a sleezy business.

Why don’t you like the feild? My sister is a vet tech and loves it. She’s had a couple jobs that she’s hated but eventually found some place that she’s happy.

Post # 15
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If I were you, I would probably take the new job, since my happiness is more important than the money.  I just got out of a job I HATED (Awful, awful boss), and am moving on to a job I’m not sure I’ll love, but it’s away from the old job, and it’s a step forward in my field.

Do you know what you want to do?  I would suggest going to talk to a career counsellor or doing some research on the internet to see what job your interests match up with.  Something I’ve really struggled with coming to accept is that I’m not going to get my dream job in the next week, or month, or year.  But I can work towards that.

Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

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